Sort of...

Thank you so much guys for all the comments on my last post. I must apologise for not replying to all of them. By now you guys should understand what happens when it becomes month end this side. We get so goddammnn busy. But i'm back now and i must admit, it really feels good to be here again. The other thing, some of the comments published on the last post have finished the story for me so i dont think its wise to start writting to the end. Once again, thank you. Even though a fight broke out at the resturant, all the same the story ended exactly the way you guys thought.

So right i dont have anything gist, but just that i attended one bridal shower over the weekend. Ermmmm..one of my colleague is getting married next month, so they threw a bridal shower for her. Can you just imagine that its winter already here, and the dress code was either mini skirts or hot pants? God! These girls wanted to kills us ooo! Anyway Jaybabe was there and it was fun. Really fun. The girl who's holding that Turperware salad bowl is the one getting married. Showers are the same in any circumstance. You bring a present, they write you name down, and what you've bought. So that next time when you have your own function, they'll buy for you what you deserve. Fun right?

And then, ever since the new president was sworn in, he came up with laws that are really gonna suffocate some of us. Right now the prices for alcohol are gonna skyrocket. And i heard he's gonna tell the brewery companies to reduce the alcohol content, then increase the prices. Jesus Christ! Again he's changed all the times for bars and clubs' operation. Bars close at 10pm. Night clubs close b4 midnight. If there's a festival, everybody should be home b4 2am. Liquor stores dont open on sundays and during the week they open at 6pm and close at 10pm. Ha! My God! The Botswana Music Union is now taking the gorvenment to court, well...so i heard. I think the rate at which this guy is going, he's gonna step down b4 he knows it! The party animal in me is gone now. After the bridal shower thing, the DJ was there to rock the night away. Just as he was about to start, the police came in. By 11pm i was soundly asleep at Doc's House. Well, when we got home, Doc started teaching me her karate tectics. We were bored. There was nothing we could do. Her husband was sleeping so we couldn't even play some music!

See this hair style? Its called cock-screwed carrot. I donno who came up with that name. Well..i thought it looked great on some people so i decided to try it out sef. Not bad is it?

Ehen! Now, i'm gonna take my time making the rounds in Blogville. Mehn! I must be left behind. But seriously, i'm gonna make sure i pass through everybody's page. I think with the list i have now its gonna take me about 2 weeks to complete the round. Guys take care. Thursday and Friday are holidays so i'll be gone home. I miss my 3 in a row. Ermmm..one other thing...Pamela sent me her pictures. I'm all smiles today...**grinning**

When The Heart Says No

...(cell phone rings)

''Hey babe?''

''Hi. You busy?''

''Not that much. Why?''

''I wanted us to meet. I wanna talk to you.''

''About?''

''Meet me at Mophane restuarant in 30 minutes.''

''Ooooh babe can't it wait for later?''

''No Becky, it can't wait. Mophane rest. 30 minutes''

...

Oh God! What is it again? We've been talking about this many a times without number. I don't wanna talk anymore. Jason is just being so unreasonable! Why cant he control his temper? Why cant he be patient like i am? Why does he wanna rush things? I mean, it's been 4 years! 4 solid years, and we are still fighting over one thing. One thing only! God!-

''B, you're okay?''

''Hey Su, i'm fine. Its just that-''

''Its Jason again right?''

**sigh**

''Rebbecah, why don't you just go ahead and do as he says? You don't wanna lose him to another girl do yah?''

''Susan!''

''Ah-ah! Abeg, i know my name. How long has it been? 3, 4 years? And you sitting there tryina play some good girl?.**long hiss** What hasn't he done for you? Huh? What? Your wish has been his command all this time. Anytime. Anything you wanted was just a phone call away. And Becky he's been taking all this bull from you for how long now? Eeh? For how long is this your bloody heart gonna say no? Just for how long? Girlfriend, look, just give Jason what he wants and get it over and done with. Its for your own good ooo! For your own!''

''Suzzy, i know okay? I know. But we've talked about this with Jason over and over again! I can't deal with it anymore, you know? There's even come a point where i can't think of what to say any longer? Why can't Jason try and reason with me just for once Suzzy? Once. Why? Is that too much to ask? Yes he's done all i ever wanted for me, he's given me all the love in the world, and for that i'm thankful. But was it a gatepass to have me jump to any and every call he makes? Su, just look at it from a serious-minded woman's point of view okay? Or maybe take your very own experiences for example. What happened after you went to Pet's house? Why didnt he wanna see you after that? Boiki stopped taking your calls. Sam gave told you about his daughter after you guys slept together. Why the fuck are you not dating right now? Susan i been there done that, please, and i aint going thru that route ever again. If Jason can't wait then let him go catch another fish. There are so many of them swimming around you know?. Coz i'm willing to wait, and thats exactly what i'm gonna do.''

''If you say so girlfriend. But just know that when the world comes crashing down on you, i'll be right here to dry all those tears from your eyes..''

Question It!

It had gotten me thinkin..

What is the one single thing you'll like to change about your partner? Or what is it that you want him/her to change about themselves? Something that you know, that if its changed, your relationship will stand the test of time?

I need your answers guys.

Blessed weekend!

Ciaaaooo!

5 Simple Rules To Be Happy

1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.

No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but he did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.

Disappointments are like road humps, they slow u down a bit but u enjoy the smooth road afterwards. Don't stay on the humps too long. Move on!!!

When u feel down because u didn't get what u want, just sit tight and b happy, because God is thinking of something better.

When something happens to u, good or bad, consider what it means. There's a purpose to life's events, to teach u how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.

You can't make someone love u, all u can do is to be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.

The measure of love is when u love without measure. In life there are very rare chances the you'll meet the person u love and loves u in return. So once u have it don't even let go, the chance might never come your way again.

It's better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one u love because of pride. We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding faults with those who we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give.

When u truly care for someone, u don’t look for faults, u don't look for answers, and you don't look for mistakes. Instead, u fight the mistakes, u accept the faults, and you over look the excuses.

Never abandon an old friend. You'll never find one who can take his place. Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.

This is meant for my friend Lebo. Forget about her going out with my ex, after all we did to her and for her. Forget about her looking up to me as her sister, and looking up to Rogy as her brother, and yet going out all the way to screw him! Forget about all that. The poor girl has lost weight, she can't think straight. She's even finding it hard to live on the same neighbourhood with him. Guys, she's finding it hard to let go of Rogy(who has brought in another live in girlfriend). She's finding it hard to move on. I'm trying on my side to make her see that there's still life after that guy. Look where i am since i parted with him. She cud do the same. I told her all she needs is time. Time heals all wounds. And in folowing those 5 rules above,she'll make it thru.

P.S Can somebody please tell Nkemugo that i wud like to visit his blog. I can't log into his page. Blessed weekend guys. Love y'all.

Forgive And Forget

As children of God, everyday we wrong him in everyway possible, but everyday He does forgive us. Who are we not to forgive people who wrong us? I once suggested this topic on national radio, and it won a lot of votes for it to be discussed. And believe you me it was a heated argument. I was like at which point do somebody REALLY say they’ve forgiven someone else? Totally forgiven them? And what does it take for somebody to say they’ve forgiven another person?

The truth is you can say that you’ve forgiven someone. But sometimes when you sit and look deep into your heart, you’ll still feel that urge to revenge on the person who wronged you. Do you guys still remember Lebo? The girl I once wrote about. That my ex and I used to be their housemate? Okay, here is how it was. I was still co-habiting with the guy I got engaged to in 2004. When he started work, he was allocated a house at one of the flats in Gabz. Because he wasn’t married, he was gonna share that house with one of his co-workers. That co-worker of his was a lady who had a teenage daughter, Lebo. My ex and I took this little girl as our lil sister you know? Sometimes we’ll help her out with her school work. Sometimes I’ll permit my ex to take her out to the afternoon movies if I had something to do, maybe at work or something. Sometimes I’ll go shopping with her. Buy her anything she wanted. We even have a blue boobtube top that look exactly the same, because I bought it for myself, and when she saw it, she said she wanted it too. So I got him to buy it for her. She was really like a sister. Especially that she is the only child and I’m the only child too, so you know, the feeling, like they say, was mutual. She is 7 years my junior.

When we moved to our own flat, Lebo and I didn’t lose any touch. She used to come to our house. Stay there. Help me bathe the kids. Sleep over. Stay with the kids while my ex and I went out. You know?, she helped out in everything. She was there all the time. She was even there when i and him started having problems. I still remember the sms’s we exchanged during that time.

To cut the long story short, when I moved out of my ex’s house Lebo moved right in! Ha! Sometimes you just can’t believe some other things would you? No matter how much you try. Of course I had problems with that. I started asking myself, when did their relationship really start? Were they still going out when we were still sharing the house? Did I give them space to be together, all those times I permitted him to take her out? Sometimes I went home to my mum alone, and he stayed behind. Did I give them enough chance to do whatever they were doing? Did I push him to her? Was Lebo taking advantage of my being nice to her? I mean, my ex and I used to talk to her mum. To let her be, because he mother was always after her! Like she had to come home early. She didn’t have any friends. She wasn’t allowed to leave the house even on weekends, unless my ex or I went out with her. She was supposed to answer her cell phone right here, in the sitting room, no snicking out! And when I came to know that my ex and Lebo were going out, and that HER mother was in support of the relationship, I was like, all that time, was she preparing Lebo for the guy? God!!!

Okay. I came to leave with it. I accepted it. I was like okay fine, I’ve lost him to her. No problem. We talking 2005. And since then I haven’t really gotten to know how they are doing and all. Really I let things go, decided to move on with my life. But just as I thought my life with them was over, it has started again.

I’m pictured here with Lebo. Faith is that one in a red sweater. We were at Doc’ kitchen top-up party the weekend before. Yes she came. I guess with my cousin Faith. We hugged. And later she asked to see me in private…guys…that was really like a nightmare…!

And then on Monday when we were at the office and people were by my computer, looking at the party pictures, they wanted to know what Lebo was doing at the party because she had wronged me? My people, I don’t take it that Lebo wronged me, like I told her when she wanted to apologize that night, ‘’You didn’t wrong me in anyway. I just take it that Rogy wanted to get back at me, and you only happened to get caught in the act. It wasn’t your fault. Really. To me, you are still my kid sister.’’ Yeah you guessed right. She cried. Especially now that her and the guy are not together anymore.

When she asked to see me in private that party night, she told me everything that happened between her and him. Everything. I donno why, people say that I’m a good listener. Lebo told me that some of the things she told me that night, she never told anyone. Not even her very own mother. She wanted to know how I got over the guy. She wanted to know how she could get over him. She wanted me to help her out. Help her heal. I didn’t tell her much. Just a few words. ‘’You might think that you’ve wronged me, but like I said, I don’t take it that way. I have forgiven you and forgotten everything that happened. So do likewise: Forgive and Forget.’’

So guys, I wont update until the 1st of April. I’m expecting something to happen from the 20th till the 28th March. Up till then, take good care of yourselves, and have a blessed Easter Holy’s. When we come back, and if you all are luck, I’ll tell you all about it. If you ain’t lucky, then just forgive and forget!

Ciaaooo!

A Reason To Believe

The main thing i wanna know from you guys is- What's the real reason why people get married?

A friend of mine, Dan, said he got into marriage bcoz his girlfriend came to him and said, ''I'm pregnant!''. And then he was like, ''Okay fine, lets get married''. And that was that.

I saw him over the weekend and he said the marriage is on the rocks and they are in the process of getting a divorce. Dan will be 28 this year and he got married at 25. His baby boy is 3 years now. Such a lovely thing.

When we got talking, he told me how he got into that marriage thing for all the wrong reasons. He said he realised later, that the two of them, had personalities that differed a great deal.

Is it because of these different personalities that drives people getting divorced at the end? Why get married at first when there are certain things that makes the two of you different? I want to know the real reason why people marry. And why does everything else change after getting married? Its like when eveything changes after a baby is born into a relationship.

When the two of you are still dating, and no talking about marriage, no talking about having a baby, everything runs so smooth. But the minute you get married, or the woman falls pregnant, everything changes. The relationship changes. Why?

When i got engaged to my ex, in 2004, i wasn't ready for marriage. He bought that ring bcoz we fought- well not physically fighting, but argued a lot that morning, and i threatened to leave, and then, later he slipped that band on my finger, but i wasn't smiling, i wasn't surprised, i didn't cry, i wasn't happy, i didn't like it at all. Just that i felt sorry for him, coz he was trying by all means to make things right.
That engagement didn't even go as far as walking down the aisle, bcoz it was all for the wrong reasons. I think i wrote a story on that sometime ago. How it all ended and all.

Even up till now i'm still asking myself that, if at all i had gotten married that time, what wud have been my reason today for the marriage? As i didnt have a solid reason to get engaged that time.**sends out a lil laugh**..you know i even remember we went home to tell my mum, and i remember we were seated together outside the house and my mum was asking both of us if we knew exactly what we were getting ourselves into...

...anyway, whats your take on this?

And like i said, Doc's kitchen top-up was a blast! Right now she doesnt have space in her kitchen. Some of the presents are inside the guest rooms. I'm just so lazy to upload pictures. Sorry guys.

A Family Affair

Guys, thanx to all of you who commented on my last post. Was really busy the whole week couldn't reply there and there. But thanx all the same.

Another one of those weekends in already here, and part of this whole week has been spent preparing for my cousin, Dorcas' kitchen top-up party which will be held at her house tomorow. I know Afrobabe has been dying to see some of my dirty pictures at any function. So Afro, and all of you guys, i promise a lot of those kinda pictures when we come back from the weekend. This time i'll be keeping my cool coz it won't be my thing.

I was gonna up load an invitation card a dear friend of mine designed for the occasion, beautiful thing, but i remembered that it has my numbers on it. I dont trust people like Pamela, who won't leave me in peace, by calling even in the wee hours of the mornings. Yes, thats what she said, the other time, when i complained about people giving me a head ache by calling. She said if she knew my number she was gonna be one of them. So..yeah..

Guys..be careful over the weekend hey? And enjoy this read as you head for the weekend. This really left me lost for words! Can something like this happen? I mean in real life?:

A young lady matriculant is going to matric dance with his biological brother because she didn't have a date. On their way back home after the matric dance her brother says to her:
''If I wasn't your brother I'd pull over and park 500m from the road''.

''Pretend you are not my brother and pull over''. she replied!

He pulled over and said "If I wasn't your brother I'd kiss you until you sweat''.

''Pretend you are not my brother and kiss me until I sweat''. she replied!

He kissed her and said" If I wasn't your brother I'd fu...ck you like hell''.

She said: pretend you are not my brother and f...ck me like hell''.

They made love, enjoying every moment of it and after they finished she said to her brother: ''Your D*ick is as big as Dad's.''

And he replied: ''That's what Mom always tells me!''

Standing Outside The Fire

We call them cool
Those hearts that have no scars to show
The ones that never do let go
And risk the tables being turned

We call them fools
Who have to dance within the flame
Who chance the sorrow and the shame
That always comes with getting burned

But you've got to be tough when consumed by desire
'Cause it's not enough just to stand outside the fire
We call them strong

Those who can face this world alone
Who seem to get by on their own
Those who will never take the fall

We call them weak
Who are unable to resist
The slightest chance love might exist
And for that forsake it all
They're so hell-bent on giving, walking a wire
Convinced it's not living if you stand outside the fire
Standing outside the fire

Life is not tried, it is merely survived
If you're standing outside the fire
There's this love that is burning
Deep in my soul
Constantly yearning to get out of control
Wanting to fly higher and higher
I can't abide

If you're standing outside the fire
Standing outside the fire
Life is not tried, it is merely survived
If you're standing outside the fire

Words Of Wisdom

hello errryburry, i got this from a friend and thought you could also learn from it.

stop telling people how they should live their lives by asking them personal questions like when are you buying a car , buying a house, when are you getting married, when are you having a child etc.

stop asking people questions they don't have answers for, it exposes your level of maturity and intelligence e.g. why do you have skin rashes, have gained or lost weight etc.

if something is not your business stay out of it unless you are asked for advise.

it is normal to gossip but please don't make it a habit, rather turn your gossiping skills into something positive.

nobody is perfect; we all have our weaknesses, so stop complaining or criticising other people, because they also feel the same about you. it is just that they are emotionally matured and accept you the way you are.

compliment a person if she looks nice instead of asking what is the occasion

try to associate with positive people and avoid negative people who always try to bring you down

if a person tells you something confidential or personal stop discussing it with other people, it exposes your level of maturity

learn to think before you talk

with luv
jaybabe.

Classic Stuff

I hope everybody's fine. Even though i hadn't replied to all the comments left on the post below, i would really like to thank everyone who left something there. I really appreciate your concerns on issues regarding women. But i'm glad i did pass through everyone's blog. Just to let you know that it's this other time of the month. I mean it's month end and i get really busy at work, but i will try and reply next time. And i wanted to wish you all the best laugh-able weekend ever. Take care.

1.WAY TO GO OLD MAN
I took my dad to the mall the other day to buy some new shoes. We decided to grab a bite at the food court. I noticed he was watching a teenager sitting next to him. The teenager had spiked hair in all different colors: green, red, orange, and blue.
My dad kept staring at him. The teenager would look and find him staring every time. When the teenager had enough, he sarcastically asked, "What's the matter old man, never done anything wild in your life?" Knowing my Dad, I quickly swallowed my food so that I would not choke on his response, knowing he would have a good one. And in classic style he did not bat an eye in his response. "Got drunk once and had sex with a peacock. I was just wondering if you were my son."

2.Dr Phil (this one na classic abeg)
Four women came to Dr Phil for advice. After carefully analysing their problems he gave them their replies:
''I have realised that all of you women have got one similar problem. You are all obsessed.''
To the first woman: ''You are obsessed with alcohol, that is why you've even called your daughter Brandy''.
To the second woman: ''You are obsessed with money, that is why you've even called your daughter Penny''
To the third woman: ''You are obsessed with the fastest cars, that's why you have called your son Speedy-''

Before he could turn to face the fourth woman, she abruptly stood up, grabbed her son by the arm, and said, ''come on Dick, let's go!''

It's A Lie And A Laugh

Don't Lie To Kids: What an experience!
There was this guy sunbathing in the nude at the beach. Well, this little girl comes up to him, so he covers his private parts with a newspaper.
The little girl says, "What's under there?"
So the man answers, "A bird."
The girl goes away and the man falls asleep. When he wakes up; he is in a hospital and in great pain.
A doctor comes up to his bed and asks, "What happened?"
The man answers, "I don't know. I was at the beach and I fell asleep after talking to a little girl."
So the doctor tells this to the Police, and they go to the beach to find any witnesses.
When they get there, they see the little girl the man was talking about.
So they ask her if she did anything to the man.
She answers, "I didn't do anything to the man, but while he was sleeping, I played with his bird. After a while, it spit at me, so I broke its neck, burned its nest, and smashed all its eggs.

Never Lie To Your Boss: Else You Are As Good As Dead!
boss said to an employee: "Do you believe in life after Death?
employee: "Certainly not! There's no proof of it", he replied.
boss : "Well…, there is proof now.
After you left early yesterday to go to your only uncle's funeral, He came here looking for you!"

Never Lie To Yourself: Vincent walks into a bar in Pretoria, orders three pints of Black Label and sits in the back of the room, drinking a sip out of each one in turn. When he finished all three, he comes back to the bar and orders threemore. The bartender says to him, "You know, a pint goes flat after I draw it; it would taste better if you bought one at a time." Vinn replies, "Well, you see, I have two friends. One is in Polokwane, the other in Lebowakgomo, and I'm here in Pretoria . When I left home, we promised that we'd drink this way to remember the days we all drank together." The bartender admits that this is a nice custom, and leaves it there. Vinn becomes a regular in the bar and always drinks the same way: he orders three pints and drinks the three pints by taking drinks from each of them in turn. One day, he comes in and orders two pints. All the other regulars in the bar notice and fall silent. When he comes back to the bar for the second round, the bartender says, "I don't want to intrude on your grief, but I wanted to offer my condolences on your great loss."
Vinny looks confused for a moment, then a lights dawn in his eye and he laughs. "Oh, no," he says, "Everyone is fine. It's me.....I've quit drinking!"

Guys...i'll see you after the weekend, have a good one. And Please be careful of what you do and how you do it! Ciaaooo!!

Life vs Fear

Tomorrow will soon be yesterday,and yesterday was once tomorrow.But what about today?Is it important?
Do we constantly obsess over everything but the present?If the memories are what hurt then why do we hold on to them?

If the present is the most enjoyable then why does it go by so quickly?
Why do the best things in life seem unreachable?And why do the worst things seem to fall into your lap? But most importantly,why do we think these things?

Seeing is believing for most people,and if they see it happen to them,they will believe it for the rest of their lives and think nothing different of it. But why can't we just believe that things just happen,no matter what the immediate reaction is? In the end,no matter how good or bad,it always turns out for the best:

We learn. We learn about life.We learn lessons.We learn reasons.
We learn answers.And most importantly,we learn feelings.Our feelings.After all,what are we without feelings? One feeling everyone feels is fear.It is the least discussed emotion between humans.

Why? People fear it. Ironic? Yes.But why do we fear fear?
Most people fear that they will be teased or mistreated because what they feel could be different than another's.But is teasing and mistreating what they really fear?Could it be that they fear they could actually make an impact on someone's life?
Or maybe even because they know they can rub off on that person and they would no longer be an individual?.

An example of this could be a phobia.Let's say someone is scared of heights and they won't tell anyone. It could possibly be because they fear if they tell another person,they could rub off on them,or even find out that the other person feels the same way. But they could face their fears together,and learn:They can learn about their friendship.

As quoted from Alanis Morrisette,"...you live,you learn,you love,you learn,you try,you learn,you lose,you learn.....".
That song "You Learn" always had an impact on me.I made so much sense that one could not ignore it.

Tomorrow will soon be yesterday,and yesterday was once tomorrow. What makes us think about this is past experiences and up coming experiences. Why? The fact of the matter is......we fear it.I think it is time that mankind got over their fear of the present and actually learn something.

Don't you????

T'was Written In The Stars...

Hey guys. Hope you all had a gr8 weekend? Mine was hectic. Okay first things first. I gues it was difficult for the judges to come up with the top 20. We were up at The Big 5 Lodge from 8am till 7pm. See this girl i'm pictured here with? Thats Rose. I had a tie with her, and then we had to battle it out, just the two of us, up till she made it thru. Guys, that was some competition ooo! Those people's voices? Ah-ah! I couldn't match oo!
Okay fine. I know you guys are disappointed in me, and i was disappointed too. Especially that i had come that far, had to go in, sing my lungs out, make it to the next round, and just as i was facing the top 20 category, i flopped.
I must admit Rose is a better singer than me. So i really think she deserved to go in. By the time it was just the two of us, i was really tired. Finished. But hey..i don't really have any hard feelings for the judges, coz..like somebody once said..'when one door closes, another one opens. So..you watch this column...! I won't tell you about it now..**smiling**

From The Big 5 Lodge, i headed straight to Dorcas' house coz she had organised a lil something for me with her friends. This girl is crazy oo! That lil something turned out to be a huge party which went on until the wee hours of the morning. She still owes me an explaination for that! I'll come back to upload the pictures oo! You know how party-animally i am, so look forward to some crazy pictures here.

Like i said, it was a crazy weekend.The party ended around 3:30am and by 5am i was still up, tryina solve some issues between Faith and her boyfriend, who wanted to send her to the gallows then. Kai! Children of today? Why do they think its easy to get in and outside a relationship if you so wish? Anyway..they booked into some lodge and then sunday morning they came to my house. Now Faith was not talking to the boyfriend, and the boyfriend was crying, and then i was asked to intervine. Good Lord!...

Another Woman's Man = A Dangerous Zone

Can somebody please tell this woman that, that's just a mushroom!

When it comes to issues of cheating, the first thing that comes to ones mind is how their partner performs in bed with the person they are cheating them with. 'Is she/he better than me?'. Why can't we think of something else apart from SEX? Can't somebody cheat by just meerly hanging out with the other person, without them sleeping together? Easier said than done huh?!

Now women have come up with dangerous means of protecting what is theirs. I donno if men do it too. Well..i've heard of only a one in million case where a man goes out to an extent of 'going a step further'.

Three Nigerian men came to Botswana sometime last year on a business trip. I've read the story on newspapers now, coz it was all over the country. So these guys booked in one hotel next to the University, Gaborone Sun most probably. They got involved with some girls from the university and a few days after the guys left..heee! Those girls started having worms coming outta their private parts! God! Those girls suffered oooo! Kai! Well..i haven't been to school to see them, but rumours had it that, you wouldn't stay one single minute in their room! The smell that came outta there was umbearable. We got most of the stories and the pictures of the girls in The Voice Newspaper. It reported that the girls made endless visits to hospitals to no avail. It published the pictures of the girls with their legs apart like that. Bcoz they said if they placed their legs together, it hurt real bad. My God! Just imagine, some funny small worms coming outta there! Well...i donno where the girls are right now, but i heard the last time they were seen in this country was when they were boarding a plane to Nigeria. Only the wives to those men, were the only people who could cure them! See? Another woman's man is a dangerous dial to touch!

It doesn't only happen in Nigeria. In fact i think it happens everywhere in Africa. I donno about the western world, but in every country in Africa, its common.

When my mum was still working and i was still at high school, she used to have a friend. They were not very close, but they came together when they wanted to have a woman to woman talk, you know? So it happened that this woman, my mum's friend, was dating a married guy. She was a conductor in the said guy's bus, while he was the driver. I gues thats how they met. And then, they started shagging. Ha! The wife found out ooo! And then when she wanted some answers, she didnt get any. And then she kept quiet.It so happened that my mum's friend started having her periods 24/7/365. There was not a day that passed by without her having her flows. She confided in my mum, thats how i got to know,coz my mum and i are friends. I asked my mum what she said to her. She was like, ''i had long told that woman to leave another man's husband alone, but she wouldn't listen. Now, let her get herself outta that mess''. See? It happens everywhere.

There are so many cases concerning consequences of dating another woman's husband. Just that people dont come forward about them. A similar case i once heard was where a woman who was 'knocking' another one, got into her periods everytime she's supposed to go meet with the guy. Everytime. Ha! How these things happen i donno ooo! So abeg, girls, watch out. If he belongs to another one, don't even think twice!
Coz you'll be pressing a wrong button!

Well..it's as a result of all the shagging and the over protection of the 'mushroom' that we end up celebrating baby showers every weekend. Like i said, as long as they wont stop making babies, i wont stop having a good time while waiting for another new mouth! This one happened over the weekend and like always, it was a blast!

I haven't done a tour of Blogville in a long time. So guys, have a productive week!

Tiane's Night Out

When Tia first told me about the baby she was carrying, and i calculated, i didn't think the days and months would pass by so quickly such that in no time we would be celebrating her baby shower. I remember it was some time in June last year, and by then she told me she was two months on, that meant the baby is due this month. So my people, dont blame me ooo! I think i got carried away with that Popstar thing i even forgot my friend is goinno have a baby! What kinda friend is this one? Mxem!

Anyway, thats why i rushed things last week so that we hold the babyshower this past weekend. Tia went to her doctor and they did a scan. She was told its goinno be a boy! And that the EDD(estimated Date of Delivery) is in two weeks.
And everything with the shower went well ooo! My friend can't even wait to go to the 'bakery'...lol..if only she knew? Knew what? Nonsense! Is it not for just 10 minutes? And she'll be holding her baby in her arms?

As usual, Jaybabe took her cam with her. Here are some pictures.


When she's not heavy like this, she's such a beautiful girl. Wait till the baby comes out. You'll see what i mean when i talk about beauty.

Snacks being passed around.

Thats the M.C now! And she even allowed us to use her house as the venue. Everything's fine. The past is in the past. Even though what she did to me is unforgetable, she's still my friend. That will never change.

Anybody ever tasted Nestum? Yeah food for 3 year olds down? Tastes nice, like ermmmm..i donno..but very nice. Everybody made sure they made a mistake so that they could have a spoon full of nestum. Some came very late. Others didn't include gate passes(any product from Johnsons) with their presents. See? So if you did something wrong you got punished by eating nestum. Or like if Tia didnt gues right what the present could be,and who it came from, she'll also get a spoon full of that. It was fun. Really.

Oooh! My...! Did i mention my girl has her own set of wheels? Okay, you all know now. So included in the presents was a baby car-seat. From the organisers of the shower. You know who's included in here right?

You guys all know that my girl is a first time mother right? So here, they were showing her how to bath the baby. Every single step of bathing a new born baby. And this foolish girl was laughing! Can you imagine? If she thinks i'm goinno do everything for her, she should forget it ooo! Ha! Where was she when i did all mine? Abeg...lol..of course i'll help her out.

I never really intended to show Tia's face here you know?But...well..okay..thats my girl there now!

Ehen! Shall we eat now? On the menu there was papa, chakalaka and some grilled braai woers and beef. T'was very nice. I mean the food.

See this girl here? She doesn't drink anything with alcohol ooo! She didn't even get tempted when seeing all the drinks. Yebo!!! Another one of my resolutions will be fulfilled. Abeg..i didn't make a vow with any of you guys..but i did that with God. I vowed that i wont drink again. AND I WON'T!!! Don't mind what's in that bag. Just my lip-gloss, two spare batteries for the camera, in case the other two went down, money for cab afterwards, what else?...ermmmm..yah, and Nivea lotion for my hands. Thats all there was in that bag actually.

More pictures HERE. Enjoy the whole week ahead.

The Night Before

It wasn't like any other moment
Yes the clocked ticked
And a little girl laughed outside
But it wasn't the same
Same as every other day i lived
Because the night before
I thought i saw you
Walk in through that open door

The t.v was on, but i saw only you
The radio was on, but i heard only you
When the rainy air blew into the house
It was the scent of you i inhaled
This is true, this is not a foe
Because the night before
I thought i saw you
Walk in through that open door

The time
Wasn't like any other
Even during that night
And I saw the moonlight
It glowed on me with a smile
Said to me, 'very soon
You are goinno stop walking that mile'
It was the night before
That i thought i saw you
Walk in right through that open door...

Pamela Thinks I'm Weird...

...i gues thats why she tagged me on that one. But really i don't think i am. Thats why again, i took this long to write up something on this topic. I got tagged last year November and i took this long bcoz i was tryina search for anything with me that cud be(.....)you know? But not weird. This is what i came up with.

I don't always wear what i prepared to wear the previous night. Like i'll iron some clothes to wear in the morning. But i'll always end up wearing something else. Its not being weird is it?

I start work at 7:30am on weekdays, that is monday to friday. But everyday i wake up at either 4:30am or sometimes 5am. I donno...after bathing, i'll sit on the couch, with no clothes on, and then my mind will wonder off. I start thinking about my dreams, my goals, my future. I start fantacising about life. Abeg, this happens all the time. I start seeing my self living in some foreign country, just me and the kids(and of course..him). By the time i jump back to reality, it's 7 o'clock!! Heee! people you shud see how i start moving up and down the house, not knowing what to do, where to start! Do i need a housemate?

Somebody nearly broke my ribs on this one. Was it Pamela or Afrobabe or Anonymous girl, who said the first thing they watch out for on a man is the front of his pants! Check if its bulging. If there's a bulge there, she'll know that, 'yaahh, i've hit the jackpot!''..lol..well the first thing i look at on a man, the first time we meet, is his hands, especially the nails! Am i weird? Abeg, those hands do a lot of things ooo! not to talk about the fingers and its nails!

The twitching by my hip when i walk. I donno why that happens. It becomes (weird) if i'll happen to be walking with someone and they ask me, ''hey, whats that sound?'' You know like the twitching sound comes with every step i take.

I can't seem to change my mind about something easily. Once my mind is made up, there's no turning back. Like i always remember the other time, the kids were still young, like 6,4 and 3 years. And that time they were staying with my mum back home. I had made up my mind that i was gonna get them bicycles that month. That whole month, i remember their...well...'father' and i had to go without food bcoz i used all the money to buy those bicycles. No matter how much he tried to make me see reason. Thats the way i am. Still, not weird right?

I sleep with a bible under my pillow. It has to be there EVERYTIME!. Well before that, i used to get nightmares, but ever since i started sleeping with it under there, i don't get those. Even if i did, in that dreadful sleep, i call God's name, or remember that the bible is under my pillow, the nightmares go away. Very weird. I wanda how that happens.

Washing an underwear, takes most of my time sometimes. Especially in the mornings. So when i sleep at night, after bathing, i dont put one on, coz i know in the morning i'll have to wash it again. So the best thing is to sleep with no undy so that in the morning i don't have to worry about that. When i tell people, like i talk about it in the office, they tell me that its not safe, that what if somebody breaks into my house and attempts to rape me, i mean he won't even have to struggle with any undy. But i lock my house now!, and the windows have got burglar bars, so i think i'm safe.
Well...whats the use in sleeping with my undy on, coz if it happened that i slept with my boyfriend or husband, he's gonna take it off! This is life made easy for him ooo!

I don't think i'm weird...do you?

Would You Run Or Finish?

Hey guys, the year has already started now, i gues it's time we gisted. Sometimes i wonder if really standing for whats right for you might be wrong to another person. Would you choose to accept what you don't want, just to satisfy another person? Is it a crime to act for what you rightfully deserve than not, just because you might hurt another person in the process? This happened sometime last year, i gues it was 3 days b4 xmas day. You know how i love Wimpy's Double burger now? So i was craving for one on that particular day then decided to go for it. I'm placing my order at the reception table.

''Can i have Wimpy Double burger please- Take away.''
''Anything else?''
''Yah, and 1 mega coffee, put 7 satchets of sugar please''
''Okay, you can wait by that chair while we prepare your order, its gonna take 8 minutes. Thank you''
''Thank you''

I'm sitting by the chair, waiting. Recharging my phones.

''Excuse me'' its the lady who was taking my orders.
I turn to look at her, ''me?''
''Yes ma'am. Your bill is ready''
I go to the reception table, ''how much is it?''
''P41.50''
I pay. Go back to still wait for the order. While still waiting, i took the till slip she gave me and went thru it. I see that she's punched in Cheese burger. Oh God! How i hate cheese! I stood up quickly and went to tell her that.

''Sorry, i didn't order any burger with cheese'' showing her the till slip.
''But i asked two times whether you wanted cheese burger and you didnt object''
I'm begining to sweat now. When i get angry, i start sweating, ''Heela mma! I didnt order any cheese burger, did you hear any word like cheese coming from my mouth? For God's sake i dont eat cheese!'' I banged my hand on the counter.
''But i repeated the order twice and you didnt say anything''
''So what do i do? Cos i dont take cheese? And i've seen that you've sold to me the one for P30. I want that one for P27. Thats the one i always buy.''
''But there's nothing i can do''
''There's nothing you can do you said?''
''Yes ma'am''
''Oh? Okay. Where's your manager?''
''He's at the back''
''Call him for me''
The manager comes in. I relate the story to him. Can you believe that i was even shaking?
The manager started punching in on the till and then gave me my P3 change. ''I'm sorry about that ma'am''
''You are welcome'' I was smiling. You know the kinda smile now.

Am back sitting at that chair again, sipping in their sweet coffee. Dammmn people in the restuarant were all looking at me. But while swallowing in the coffee, it dawned on me that i didnt do the right thing you know? Shouting at that gal like that. Well it was my money i was fighting for and practicing my rights as a customer, but it was like i looked down on that gal, it was like i was indirectly telling her that she doesnt know her job! I felt really bad. God help me!

But again, was i supposed to just go with the cheese burger when i don't even take cheese? Was i supposed to go with the P30 burger when i wanted the one for P27? I narrated this to a very close friend of mine, and he suggested that i go back and maybe..you know..kind of like..appologise to the girl! Eerrmm..i'm still thinking about that. Okay. Maybe the next time i go to the same restuarant i'll talk to her. I'm not sure about the apologising part...

It feels good to be back home...in Blogville.

Expand Your Happiness...(Happy New Year)

Compliments Blogville!!! I hope everybody came back wholely after the crazyness of lighting fireworks. Well..i came back still as the bubbly Jaybabe you all know. Another year has started and that calls for more gists and keeping Blogvillagers up dated on the goings on around everyone. I hope to be bloging as much as i would love but then i have my own resolutions now, abeg, i am supposed to have those right? Well they are not many:
-No alcohol
-Minimum going out
-Getting much closer to God
-Expand my happiness as far as i can
-And by the grace of God, i wanna realise one of my dreams this year. Pray for me guys...Yeah thats all. And for that i would love to share this with all of you:

Expand your happiness by learning from past years mistakes. New Year should be treated like another chance in life to leave all past mistakes behind and start all over again, a time to review the past year and to obtain the essence of the past many months of work. The essence means to learn what was good and what should be changed and HOW things need to be changed if changes are needed.

From year to year all should progress - progress means:
- improve
- more happiness
- more peace in family and neighborhood
- better health
- more fun and joy in life
- more financial stability by reducing expenses to a healthy relationship with the actual income
- Having learned to stay well within your own limits - i.e. stay OUT of OTHER peoples private business unless asked to do so for helping. Focus on YOUR problems an solve them better each year.
- Having improved your professional skills and expertise / knowledge to have a solid basis for life and for your happy future
- Having reduced the number and quality of struggles with others by leaving them more and more in peace and focus on your own many problems to solve.

FIRST there are lessons that repeat year after year. Click HERE for more.

Like the previous New Years messages: Click HERE for more.

New progress is ONLY possible on the basis of accomplished earlier basic lessons. Before even thinking of or attempting new progress - first assure you have done all the basic lessons of life to create peace of mind and emotional stability in life. We must review the past, to obtain all essence and to preview possibilities of the future year. We must work hard to achieve our goal, to improve and re-harvest again until all are happy around us. The happiness we have created as a result of a fruitful and successful year we gave:
- love
- professional help and advice
- shelter and support
- happiness in many ways to all around us

Hence the many happy people we have created in this ending year will be the source of our next years happiness...and so on.
Happiness always bounces back ...but only the happiness WE have created in others bounces back. What we do for money to earn our living and pay for our shelter,that is for our very personal use only and has little to do with love. All we do beyond business and without money,just for fun and for free,to neighbors or friends, foreigners of any nation...that is what really counts toward true happiness in the coming year. In eternal life only the love you gave matters for your heart. How much did we all contribute to a better and more peaceful life in more freedom by more people on this planet?
How many past conflicts did YOU solve in your life these past months?

It still is time with more open hearts than most other seasons of the year. Hence it still is time to reconcile, to embrace and hug, to love,to forgive and enjoy new achieved loving happiness in an expanding global family: Click HERE to read more.

A few sweets or a few flowers do miracles and may help to open a heart otherwise closed for reconciliation - some extra efforts and a true gift of love to make someone smile again...

Happy New Year to you all.

Light A Candle

I gues you'll agree with me that this has been one hell of a year. It started out so well, rolled on so well and its ending so perfect. When this year started for me, i had a few friends in Blogville. I think i had about 5 people on my 'Blogs I Read' list. But just look at the list now. Everyday i added a new friend. I want to thank you all for this spending this year with me. Being there everyday to know how i was fending. Thank you for sharing all your trials and tribulations with all of us. Thank you very much to some of you who showed me that i wasn't walking this earth alone. This has been a tremendous year for me. See me now! I'm still smiling to its ending.

''It's here again. It's that time of year. We're so far apart. That it's breaking my heart. Just to know you won't be here. But I won't cry. I didn't ask why...''
This is a verse from Smokie's Light A Candle. I want all of you to light a candle for everyone of us...on Christmas Eve..

Solomonsydelle I thank the Lord for leading you to me page. Its been gr8 knowing you. You've been an inspiration to me. Having a family like that. A family so loving. I wanna have something like that. I remember how we used to talk about protecting our children. I remember how T.K hid in one of the cabinets, eating uncooked oatmeal, and you and his uncle thought he had disappeared to a place nobody knew. I remember the day he was playing with your Rosemary flower pot in the garden. I remember T.E singing along 'sexy girl' from your SOCA CD. Istill remember her as the enforcer. I love how she's gonna help you with the boys. I remember how Bomboy tried to play with the plug-in air freshener at your neighbours..lol..and how he gave you that conieving smile..hahahah..and it clicked on you where you saw that kinda smile. Its been gr8 knowing your kids.
A candle lit message to you: Each task of everyday life is part of the total harmony of the universe.

30+ Ha! You? you think you are older than me abih? I toldu gimme 3 years. 3 solid years! I'll be your age ooo! Its been great knowing you too. You donno how i felt the day i saw you on my page.

Pamela Girlfriend, where do i start? I been feeling like i'm one person with you. You been more like a sister than just a mere fellow-blogger. I remember how you tagged me on random weird things, which havent even written even now. I remember how that anonymous guy messed up your comment page just bcoz of me. And i'm still saying that i'm sorry about that. Wow! And i remember how Eddiie made you and i feel special in Blogville by dedicating that song to us. I remember a lot of things. I remember how you started your work on radio. Oh God! I thank you for this girl. And you are doing a gr8 job. I remember how i tagged you on the 30 Days of Thankfulness. I remember the day Eddiie, Gerald and i helped you move to house number 222, next to the 2 boys. I loved that day. It was full of fun. I remember how you wanted to take Eddiie away from me the day you moved next to his house. I remember how we fought and Gerald came to creat peace between us. I remember how we laughed about it, and hugged, and went for ice-cream. I love you Pam...am i crying?..no..its just a single teardrop.

Dolly You been the best poet Blogville has ever had. And to me you been another inspiration. I wanna write poems as good as yours one day. Even though i havent seen you for a while now, i still have memories of some of your poems in my head. Some of which i've copied and dedicated to some people dear to me. I'm sorry i'm telling you now. I know plagiarism
is not allowed even in Blogville. But Dolly..your poems...

Sparkle Hey Yetunde? How do i even start remembering you?**smiles**. Yeah girl the first thing i remember about you is your ear. And how you ended up cutting short your hair. And how Olamild was crying everyday coz you were hurting.Its been gr8 knowing you. I remember you, Manda and i used to always be ready in case Diary updated, coz we always wanted to be first on his new post. I remember how i once found you and him, all alone in my house while i wasnt there. I remember how i asked you what you two were doing alone in my house, and you dropped down your head, and how Diary went to the bathroom. You still havent told me what you were doing with him that night. I remember the story you wrote after you got an email, somebody asking you to write something on that. It was so gr8. So creative. You are one hell of a girl, a friend and more of a sister. My candle message to you: We are gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.

Ozaveshe LOL...look at this one. Don't mind me. I won't say much about you. I still know what you did last summer, but mark my word, i won't say anything. Lol..i remember what you got on your birthday, which of course i missed. 29 calls, 3 text messages, 3 emails, 1 facebook greeting, 5 birthday cards, a bottle of groundnut, a cake, and a pair of socks. I remember how you complained about all that,but to me that was too much to ask for. I remember how you became an uncle sometime in April. I hope your nephew grown now, and that you've taught him wisdom as to mankind and things he's supposed to do and not do as a man. Yeah you smiling, i know, its allowed. Its been gr8 knowing you too this year..

Life Of A Stranger, Omosewa, Catwalq Stuck On My Throat Believer, Diamond Hawk, Ms. Emmotions, Lady A, Queen, Lurlar, Bugbemi: You guys brought xmas too early for me this year. I donno if saying thank you is goinno be enuff. Seeing you on my page bring a gr8 honour because i rate you people as one of the best bloggers i've ever known. I'm really gr8ful. I promise to always be on your back. All the way. Just like we do in Blogville. The team spirit will always be there. Will never change. I love you guys.

Ubong Da Blogville's Sex Maniac! I've never seen any post on your blog where you don't talk about your sexcapades. The one that has always been on my mind is the one where one girl came to pick you up and she came with a friend in a two seater car. And that other girl had to seat on your lap coz there wasn't enuff space in the car, and how the two of you had sex while your friend was driving! I remember how you used to fantasize about laying your female boss, and you finally did! Now you understand why i don't post comments on your blog right? The truth- i feel horny when reading your blog posts. And i don't like it! Lol...you've been a friend and a brother. And i'm gr8ful.

Diary Of A G What do i start with? Okay **hugs**. At one point you nearly portrade Ubong Da's character, but with time i gues you regreted some of your sexacapades that you stopped telling us about those. Ehen, i remember how you were with one girl at their house, in their balcony, and the mother came, and how you nearly fell and broke every bone in you..hahaha..that was some movie exee! I remember one wedding you attended and the pictures you shared with us. They were so breathtaking. I remember your time with her(you know who), but thats irrelevent for this post. Especially that we are all happy the year has ended. Oh yes, i remember you and Sparkle. How the two of you were in my house. I remember how you told me she was the one you had that dream about, and how you asked me not to tell anyone. Not even her! I'm not telling anyone ooo! I'm speaking to you alone right now. LOL... And i remember your grandma. I hope she's fine now. I remember every road we walked together in Blogville. Its been gr8. You have been an awesome guy. My candle lit question to you is that: What is something you would love to do for someone at some point but you haven't yet?

Gerald My boy, you've been one of a kind. Blogville's number 1 Journalist. That post about how you lost your baby sister was so touching. I still get my eyes soaked when i think about what you went thru. Especially at the hospital when your family was told that she was gone. But i'm glad you pulled thru, and i hope your family did too. Glad too that you were too courageuos to share that with us. I'd found a brother in you. A candle lit message for you: A man can do only what a man can do. But if he does that each day, he can sleep at night and do it again the next day.

Ugo Daniels Hahahahah..this boy! You been one hell of a boy, du know that? I love you and Nkem. I was looking forward to the first ever wedding to take place in Blogville, between bloggers. But..mehnn..things don't always go the way we want. And i'm glad you shared with us everything you were going thru. And i'm also glad that we been able to help you pull thru. I remember how i accused you of being gay, i'm sorry. Still am. I know how you felt, coz i went thru that too. Ehen, i remember your night out with that white gal you met at some restuarant. The beach night out. And how you two made out away from the people who also came to the beach party. I promised you i'm gonna tell your mum. And i remember the night you were at a friend's house. and his girlfriend was also there. The three of you watching t.v. Them sitting together on a couch, and you sitting there by yourself. I remember how you said you were praying that they shouldn't start anything funny, coz if they did, you were gonna join them...lol..you been a gr8 brother. And i have this to say to you: Let us plant dates, even though we, who plant them, will never eat them, we must live by the love of what we will never see.

Rayo In this smallest time i've known you, to me seems like i've known you my entire life. I remember how you shared with us your first visit to the strip club, and how Ugo Dee inspired you to write that one up. And i remember how you even ended up meeting and making friends at the club..LOL..that was some rib-cracking story you told there. Its been gr8 fun knowing you..

Olamild Sparkle's other exact copy! I wonder if you two are twin sisters or one is older than the other one. You've been an inspiration. Your muzic is gonna go places further than where your eyes can see. Your voice is gonna call on to those who can't even hear. The best story i remember you writting is the one where you talked about spending much time withone's family. I shud have been going Cape Town this christmas, but your story changed all my plans. So i'm gonna spend time with my family this festive. I also loved the one you wrote about ermmm..something to do with my cup of coffee, and you had a picture of a baby on a palm, which i thought was a coffee grain. That story was inspiring ooo! My candle lit message to you: Success is going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm.

Feather I loved your saying that 'one day i wanna see myself writting across the moon'..wow! I loved that. Really. Your poems are touching. They are soul searching. They are soul soothing. Just what some of us need in Blogville. I love you girl...

Anonymous girl All i can say to you is that: When nobody speaks your name, or even knows it, you who knows it, must be the first to speak. You been one girl i'll forever be gr8ful for knowing you.

Eddiie My boy, you been there for me all they way. I remember the first time i saw you on my page. I didn't read the comment you left but went straight to your page. I loved you blog then, i remember the template was that of a note book. I love it. I remember the song you dedicated to Pam and i. I felt special then. I still do. Thank you very much for the christmas cards you sent this morning. For me and the family. I remember how you 1st emailed me and then i saw your number on your email signature. And then i tried the number, it went thru. I remember that when i said my first word, and i toldu who i was, your phone cut. Later you rturned the call, and told me how you panicked, how you were shaking such that your phone fell and scattered into pieces. I remember how you told me you cudn't believe it was me who called. Yeah..it happens all the time..lol..you know thats a joke right? I'm the one who panicked!..lol..but seriously it was gr8 knowing you, and it was gr8 talking to you. And i'm sorry i didn't sms back last nite coz i think i was fast asleep. You candle lit message: If some things were different, other things would be otherwise.**wink**

Princesa You? You know what i'm goinno say right? I'mstill craving for the day i'll put my hands on Desperate C ooo! Biko, next time you see me where you are, please i beg of you show me that girl ooo! I want to give to her what you shud've given her that time she toldu to stay indoors, just coz you beautiful! Was it your fault that you are beautiful? Is it still your fault? Girl..thanks for knowing you and me.

Izzonline The number 1 midwife in South Africa. Anyone who might be pregnant in Blogville, abeg, don't worry, we have our very own Midwife here. Israel, i remember the day you delivered your own baby at your house! That was some awesome thing mehnn! How is the lil girl now? Does she know daddy is the one who brought her in? Wow! I cant wait for the day she'll start blogging about it.

Oracle Like all the poets in Blogville, you are one of the best! I mean it. Yeah i do remember how your grandma looks cute with a wig on..lol.. You got one hell of a dish of a grandma right there you know? please promise to keep them poems rolling even in the next year. Your message for end of year: I had the blues because i had no shoes untill upon the street i met a man who had no feet.

Boorishmale Its been long i know. But i still do remember you and Vera I donno if there was anything going on, but the last time i was there, you guys were fighting, and you never came back to tell me what the fight was all about. I remember it was after Vera came back from her 3 months sabat leave. But still..i love your blog. Thats for real.

UnNaked Soul Ilove how you write some words. Like unNaked, unFaithful, UnNecessary...its sooo creative. The mind is at work. I remember how one of my stories inspired one of yours. Thsi is the team spirit of Blogville i'm talking about. Where one's own writting inspires another. Its like one big family, where a brother helps another brother, where a sister stands in for another sister. Its been gr8 knowing you.

Ibo Dude Even though i haven't been to your blog as i used to, i know you there and i pray to God you are achieving what planned for. I still can't believe that,that girl you once talked unpolitely about, with your friends, is the very same girl you are going to marry. That was some confession you made there..lol..

Bighead and Writefreak You two are awesome writters i've ever came across. I wish to one day be able to write exactly like that two of you does. You two as well have been an inspiration to me.

Not forgetting my Ugandan friend Moments Like This and you Nigerian Obinwanne Knowing you meant adding you to list of blogs i read, and also getting to know more about you and your cultures. I hope we'll be doing the same thing next year. Take care of you.

Eloquent Expression I'm writting this to you cos i wanna show you that i don't have any hard feelings. I still regret the day i knew and met you. If i had known you were that kinda person, i would've done what i did with you. Now biko, please i wanna have a peaceful 2008. Can you please do that. In giving me my peace you'll also be doing yourself justice and giving yourself some peace. I hated the day you started shitting on Pamela's blog just coz i didn't publish your comments. That was some shit you were doing! The truth is..i don't really remember anything about you. But i have this little candle lit message for you: Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?

Afrobabe Oh Yeah...babe girl. I wouldn't forget you for anything. I hope you are still on your sabatical leave ooo! Or you've shagged someone already? Lol..you know what i remember about you? That midnight some neighbours disturbed your sleep, remember? Lol..you killed me when you said, ''nonsense people!''..i'm still laughing even when writting this..lol. I have a candle lit message for you: The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today.**wink**

Perfect Stranger..lol..why are you looking at me like that? So many things i remember about you...so many. A candle lit message for you: If it were not for hope, the heart would break.

This is the longest post i've ever written. I hope i've included everyone on my list of blogs i read. If I hadn't please remind me. This is my last post of this kinda, because i don't think next year this time, i'll be able to write a post like this one, as the list will be endless..well so i hope. But as i said, its been one hell of a year, knowing all of you. I'm not gonna say much, just come back all of you and lets keep Blogville team spirit rolling again. I don't wanna say this, but i know i have to: Merry Xmas everyone! and a Happy 2008!

Smokie continues..''And when the bells are ringing, And Christmas is bringing, A magic that fills the air, You'll be a wonderful sight, On a cold Christmas night, And I know, I'll be there, with you, with you, Christmas with you..But I'll be strong, It won't be long, So just light a candle for me, On Christmas Eve...''

Not Yet A Woman

When a GIRL is quiet ... millions of things are running in her mind.
When a GIRL is not arguing ... she is thinking deeply.
When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions ... she is wondering how long you will be around.
When a GIRL answers " I'm fine " after a few seconds ... she is not at all fine.

When a GIRL stares at you ... she is wondering why you are lying.
When a GIRL lays on your chest ... she is wishing for you to be hers forever.
When a GIRL wants to see you everyday... she wants to be pampered.
When a GIRL says " I love you " ... she means it.
When a GIRL says " I miss you " ... no one in this world can miss you more than that.

Life only comes around once make sure u spend it with the right person .... Find a guy ... who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
who calls you back when you hang up on him.
who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.
Wait for the guy who ... kisses your forehead.
Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.
Who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Who turns to his friends and says, " That's her!! "

Stop Abuse Against Women

A deep white smoke filled the room. What kind of a room is this one? I want to walk quickly, but I can’t. I can’t even see my feet when I look down. I’m putting on a white gown, and there’s a white towel wrapped around my head. Slowly I walk. I don’t even know where I’m walking to, but I have to walk forward. Suddenly I see a group of people. They are also wearing white clothes. There are about 20 of them in front of me. They are walking in a queue towards what seemed like a gate. A very big gate. I walk slowly forward and joined the queue. I start wondering, ‘’where am I?’’. ‘’where are we walking to?’’. ‘’why are we wearing white?’’. ‘’why isn’t anybody talking?’’. And then I start to look around me. There are two straight-lined fences on both my sides. On my left side, I see a lot of people. They don’t look happy. Others are wailing. Others are fighting. Others are killing one another. I see a mother feeding a child with blood. Yuck! All these people are on fire, but they don’t seem to burn. Oh my God! It dawns on me. I’ve heard something like this will happen. Are those people in hell?

And then I look to my right. I stop walking. I see paradise. I see beautiful animals, beautiful fruit trees. I see children having fun. I see adults sitting under a tree, talking, laughing, and hugging. I see a little boy cupping clean water from the stream and having a lion drink from his hand. Oh my God! It dawns on me. I’ve heard something like that will happen. Are these people in heaven?

Wow! I wish to be in place like that. These people seem so happy. Is this how heaven looks like? While looking further on, I see someone. Do I know that person? Oh my God! He’s looking at me too. Who’s that? He is starting to walk towards me. I come nearer to the fence. I turn to look at the queue and see that 5 more people joined the line in front of me. Where is everybody coming from? I turn to look at the person coming towards me. Peter? That’s Peter. I start shouting his name. Oh my God! That’s my Peter.
But…but…but what is he doing in heaven? He should be in hell. Oh God why? Why did you put him in heaven?

He comes towards the fence. He’s touching my fingers but I can’t feel his touch. Is this how it is in heaven? Somebody touches you and you don’t feel their touch? Is this how it’ll feel if ever I get to feel Peter’s touch again? No feeling at all?

‘’Mercy, what are you doing here?’’
‘’I came looking for you’’
‘’But you can’t be here’’
‘’But I want to be here’’
‘’What about our son?’’
‘’He’ll be fine’’
‘’He is not FINE Mercy!’’
‘’How do you know?’’
‘’Look behind your back’’

Oh my God! I looked into what seemed like a mirror. I can see Bobo holding me. He is crying. I’ve seen him cry a lot of time, but I’ve never seen him cry like that. Our neighbor, Mrs Norman, is comforting him. Bobo is wearing a black tailored suit. There’s a lady by his side. The lady is wearing a wedding gown. It was Bubo’s wedding day. How can I choose to leave our son on his wedding day? What happened? Can I go back? No! But I want to be with Peter. Peter was taken away from me two months after we got married. I miss him. Now that I’m looking at his eyes, I don’t want to let him go. What do I do now?

I turn to look at Peter. ‘’You have to go back’’
‘’I can’t. I want to be with you.’’
‘’You will be with me in the future, right now he needs you. Please go back’’

I move away from the fence. I look back at the mirror. I look back at Peter. I can see his lips moving saying, ‘go back’’. I can see him pointing backwards. He’s telling me to go back. Back to a life I should have been sharing with him right then. We should have been together at our son’s wedding today. He should have been alive. He doesn’t belong here.

Our marriage was our blessing. Our couple was the one people termed as a match made in heaven. Things started getting sour when he went for a friend’s stag party. Ever since that time, Peter came back a different person. Whatever happened there took all our happiness away. What followed was years of hardship and abuse. The incident that I will never forget was the night he came home, very drunk. I was in the kitchen making popcorns for our late night movie. Bobo was playing one t.v game. When he entered the house, he shouted my name. I didn’t like the tone in his voice. I came immediately. Before I could ask anything, I saw him hurry towards Bobo, picked him up, then came towards me, threw Bobo at me like he was throwing a piece of paper…

I look back at the mirror; I look back at Peter again. He is still asking me to go back. I start to proceed towards the gate. There are about 10 people in front of me. I know before I walk through that gate I would have made up my mind….

This is an extract from the draft of a book I wish to complete writing one day. And a book I dream of seeing turned into a movie. It’s a dedication to all women in the whole wide world. Abuse is not safe. Abuse is not good. Lets all unite to fight abuse, especially against women.

Have a great weekend.

Ooops! She Did It Again..

Hey guys. Dammmnnn! 'ts been one hell of a weekend. But it's fine now shaa, back to base and heading for another hecting month. I hope everybody's fine oo! I was all smiles this morning when i saw that Life Of A Stranger, Believer and Diamond Hawk pased by my page. I couldn't believe it. I top-rate those three, now seeing them at my comment page was something else. Thank you so much guys.

Here i come again, you guys remember that Kenyan girl who wants to be whatever she wants to be with me right?
Ehen, a few days before we wrote the exam, we were in class, she was sitting on the next row behind me, and then suddenly she whispers my name. When i looked back, she passed something to me and when i checked it was her picture.

''What do i do with this?''
''No, i just wanted you to have a look. I'm gonna send that one to my brother who's in Australia, and then i'll make another copy for you''
Then suddenly i remembered that Pammy said i should ask her if she had a boyfriend.
''Why are you lying that you are gonna send this to your brother? You call your boyfriend your brother?'' I chuckled.
''Aaaagg, c'mon Jay. I don't have a boyfriend, seriously i'm gonna send this to my brother.''
''What is your brother doing with your picture?''
''Errmmm, you know like, we haven't seen each other for like 3 years now, so he says he wanted to see how i've grown''
''And then?'
''Jay, what du mean and then? He just wanna know thats all''
''Mmmh?''
''Yeah''
''Okay. But you do promise that i'll have my own copy right?'' I just wanted her to think that i wanted her picture, but i didn't. Besides that was our last lesson before the exam, so i wasn't gonna see her again after that.
''No i promise, i'll get you one.''

And then i remember we knocked off early from class that day, and then i'm walking to the bus stop to get a taxi home, when i hear somebody shouting my name. Dammmnit! Why does she like shouting my name like that? Aaaaggg, and then she asks me to wait for her. We walk together to the bus stop. While still waiting for the taxi, her phone rings, and she starts talking in one funny language.

''Which language was that one, Kikuyu?'' I asked her after she hung up. Even though i donno the language, my ex b/f, the anonymous guy is kikuyu.
''Nope, i don't speak kikuyu, that was my language, Luo. I don't even like the kikuyu people. They think they know everything. They think they are intelligent or something like that. They think their tribe is the best in Kenya, but they are all pieces of shit!''

Mmmh, typical example of that lunatic! Right now he's decided to go shit on Pammy's blog. Nonsense!
Well my people, don't mind THIS GUY. He's such a jerk!

Back to the story now, we got on talking. In fact she's the one who was doing a lot of talking while i listened.This girl was boring me ooo! When the fuck is the bloody taxi gonna come? Dammmnn! Finally, when it did, i was so surprised when she got into the same taxi with me.
''I thought you said you were gonna go to the bus rank first before going to your house?''
''I've decided to take you half way to your house, then i can track to mine from yours''
Oh my God! The taxi had already hit the road, and there was no way i could convince her otherwise or me getting outta the taxi. Shit! I don't want this girl to see where i stay. Who asked her to take me half way? All the way i was thinking of what to tell her, so that she doesn't see my house at all.
Should i tell her i left my aunt at the house?
Should i tell her i left a man at my house?
Should i drop off at the next stop and tell her i've decided to go back to school?
Oh my God! What am i gonna do?
We were quiet all the way in the taxi, because i was busy cracking my head for what excuse to tell her.

And then we arrived to where i usually drop off. When we got off the taxi, i saw my cousin Faith. I think she was waiting for another taxi to go to college where she's studying to become a teacher. Thank God!
When we came up to meet Faith, i did the introductions and then told Faith in our language that i don't want this girl to know where i stay, so i told Faith that she's gonna have to stay a little longer. We looked for some place to sit and i told Daisy that i hadn't seen Faith in a long time, so we are gonna wait and gist a little. I could see the disappointment written all her. She asked me to show her my house.

''Aaah, no you can't see it from here. You see those tall trees there?, right behind them.'' I was pointing to the wrong houses. You can clearly see my house from the bus stop. We sat there, talking with Faith. I deliberately ignored her and concentrated on Faith. Talking in our language and i think at some point Daisy felt left out. Serves her right!

After sometime, her phone rang. After talking to whoever, she excused herself, saying it was her mother and that her mother wants to see her immediately. I thanked my God! Immediately she left, the taxi came and Faith left, and i walked happily to my house.

Later in the evening, an sms went through into my phone. When i opened it was from Daisy. The sms started like, ''Scroll down if you miss me''. People, abeg, i didn't miss her, but this is my phone now? Am i not supposed to scroll down my phone? So i scrolled. The next line went like, ''So you miss me? Please scroll again''..i'm scrolling ooo! And then, ''okay, if you miss me that much, scroll for the last time'', i continue scrolling. And then next, came a picture of a kitten. The words that came with it were that, ''i sent you this cozy kitten so that it bites you if you don't think about me, like i'm thinking about you!''

I didn't reply to that sms.

The next evening, she sent another one, ''Hi dia, commitment, passion & intimacy-3 pillars dat make our relationship A NEW BRAND TOY plz let us be jealous and protective with it. luv u.gd evg''

My God! Which relationship now? There's not any kinda friendship i can have with this girl. One, i don't understand her. Two, i think she's gay/les. And three, she's from Kenya. I've got a history with somebody from Kenya who thinks can make my life a living hell. But he's the one living in hell right now.
Can somebody please tell this girl to leave me alone? Abeg!