He's Not A Boy Anymore...

...and i must admit, it wasn't easy either for me or my mum, knowing that Jnr could barely walk, but then he was goinno have a baby brother. Well..we didnt know whether it was goinno be a boy or girl at that time. But that didnt matter. The fact that i was having another baby that soon really devastated everyone.

I remember coming home from college and i stopped at my mum's work place. I wanted to tell her face to face that i was goinno to have another baby. And when i said that she nearly fainted with disappointment. After a while she came around and we started talking with no hard feelings now. She wanted to know when i was coming home for good, and if i have already started buying baby clothes. She wanted to know a lot of things at once. Then i knew for sure that, she was looking forward to having this baby too.

6 years down the line, i'm having a real man growing beside me. Did i mention he's the one who taught his older brother, Jnr to write his,name? And now he just cant wait to start school. May God bless this guy for me. Help him achieve best things life will offer to him. What i love more about him, is the soft spot he has for his siblings. If he wasn't my son, i wasn't gonna think twice about marrying him!!!

The Yeah Ending...

There are so many things i love about the ending of every year. First of all, those three in a row have their birthdays celebrated when the year ends. They all came like that- 3 in a row, October, November and December. This weekend i'm going home to celebrate Jeddah's. I dont worry that much about Vicky's birthday bcoz i know that when everybody celebrate xmas day, little do they know that they are also celebrating Vicky's birthday. Yep! she's a xmas child. Thats the other thing that makes her very special. She's the best xmas present i ever got from...ermmm...well...whoever.

The other thing i like about the year ending is all the parties we attend and all the fun we have. This past weekend Jaybabe and the cousins attended two bridal showers. Well we were invited to one, but gate-crushed the other. As always my camera followed suit!

Jaybabe and cousin Faith, having a small chat.

Faith and G, laughing out loud i gues...

Gossip mongers...lol..Doc and her friend Milly...

I have a feeling we were not the only gatecrushers, coz the 2nd bridal shower...it was fully packed!

The Dj wasn't doing bad at all..

The rainbow colors is the real makoya!

Jaybabe and workmate, Thabang making a toast. To what? I donno...

Jaybabe and a friend, Thato M.

All of them, having fun...

'The Voice' newspaper, was gonna rate this as 'pick of the week'!..lol..

There's what we call sleep walking right? So i gues this is..what?..sleep standing? Bwahahahah...thats Faith, down and out!

This is the person who wanted to go clubbing at around 5am! God!

Hope you guys enjoyed them pics. I'm signing out. See all of you around. Will be back to publish more pictures, probably next week. Ciaaaooo!!!!

The Devil...You Lied!!!

Sometimes back in June this year, my mum's younger sister, last born to my grandmother, gave birth to a beautiful little baby girl. Her name is Rebabedi- meaning We are two. So arrangements have already been made that when Reba, as we affectionately call her, turns one next year, my mum adopts her! Aint those great news??? So FINALLY...Jaybabe is goinno have a baby sister! Heeeyyy!!!

We've already bonded oooh! One thing we all have in common is that the three of us(my mum, me and Reba) are born in June! God works wonders doesn't He? Now you devilish devil? You lied, you good for nothing son of a b...!!! Your weapon has failed you! Bcoz now...we are two!

While am still at that, over the weekend i decided for the very first time, since i started working for this company, to go out with the ball sports teams to some place out side the capital city. This picture was taken at the Lodge we booked. It was quiet some fun. And a stress reliever, coz i know if i didn't go out, then i probably would have come to work..geeeezzz!!

At The End...It Turned Out Right

The arrival of Jnr a couple years ago brought a lot of changes between Rogers (Jnr's father) and his mum. Rogy’s mum had never accepted our relationship from the word go. So when Jnr came along, everything totally changed.

One day, Rogy, Jnr and I were at my aunt’s house in Gwest, when outta the blues, Rogy’s aunt and uncle came in unannounced and ordered Rogy to come along with them. They didn’t even accept our invitation into the house. Rogy had made it a habit of spending the whole day with us(Jnr and i) like everyday. Waking up at his house, he’ll come straight to my own. Jnr was barely 2 months old and his dad will help me in tending him while maybe I washed the nappies or made his bottle of milk.

Sometimes he washed the nappies while I played with him. Like we took it in turns. Rogy really loved his son, and it showed in the way he changed his nappies. I loved the way he wiped out the poo with baby wet wipes and applied baby powder! The way he placed his son in a new nappy, he did it much better than the other girls I see these days. It doesn’t matter how things turned out between us, there are still some good memories..

That fateful day his folks came and ordered him to come home with them. They told him how he doesn’t belong where he was, they told him how I have given him ‘muti’ to follow me around, an that it showed even in the way he washes nappies!
‘How can a man wash baby’s nappies? We’ve never seen that in our lifetime!’, they said to him. Jesus! That didn’t happen in THEIR lifetime dammmnit! These are the modern days! God! As I knew how veeery quiet Rogy was (well..Jnr is worse, is it because he’s named after his father?), that day he managed to talk back at his folks! I couldn’t believe my ears!

‘’I am not going anywhere!’, he snapped back.
‘’Rogy I said you are getting out of here, out of this house, away from this girl!’’, that was his uncle, pointing at me.
‘’Babe, go with them’’, I persuaded him. He looked at me, then at Jnr, and quietly walked out, following his uncle and aunt.

About 20 minutes down the line, Rogy came back. When I looked into his eyes, they were blood shot red. I knew he was crying, then I chose not to ask him what went down.
Well…people Jnr turned 7 on 20th Oct and last Saturday we held a little ‘cake-eating’ for him. Maybe one day he’ll come to know about all these, but again I don’t see that happening because everything turned out fine for everyone. I believe everything happens for a reason.

Many a people suggested I sue Rogers for child maintenance. I can’t see myself going down that road. I feel when I do that I’ll be reminding him that we share a son, but abeg…he knows that alright! I’m not having that much of problems raising these kids alone, and I don’t see any reason why I should digrace myself by dragging somebody to the magistrate, who’s sensible enough to know that he’s got kids. Please! Ah-ah!

Jeddah’s birthday is coming on the 4th of November. He’ll be turning 6. Am all smiles when writing this coz I just spoke to my mum a coupla minutes ago and she told me that she’s gone to register him for next year’s standard one intake. Kai! Minus one problem!

Driven To Cheat?????

Someone once asked in a comment: Can a man drive a woman to cheat? Why or why not? Of course I have to think of it from my perspective:
Can a woman drive a man to cheat?One person cannot drive another person to cheat … but they sure as hell can encourage them.

A cheater is a cheater. They had it in their heart to cheat (not saying that they knew they would or planned to do it … but they had the capacity to do it in their heart). Someone who is not a cheater is simply not going to cheat. You can entice them, put the p*ssy in their face, and threaten their job … but they won’t do it.
Even if an “anti-cheater” is walking in the strip club, trips on spilled drink, happens to fall into a condom someone was holding, falls into the girl doing toe touches on the floor … and she happens to be ok with it … and magically no one else can see them because a curtain just fell down hiding them from view … he still would pull out and say “sorry … but I have a girlfriend”. Yes … someone who is determined to not cheat and lacks the capacity to do it … won’t. Period!

But … not everyone is like that. Some are born with inclination to cheat. Scientists now are trying to determine the gene, but until that breakthrough comes … you just don’t know. There are a few different kinds of cheaters. You have your natural born cheaters (never smelt a pussy he didn’t like), your occasional cheaters (sometimes you just need a change), and the accidental cheater (same scenario as above … he just aint pull out) … but their all cheaters.

So … given that everyone is either a cheater or anti-cheater, no one can be forced from one group to the other. Sure, a cheater may be able to resist cheating … but he’s not an anti-cheater. The girlfriend or wife of the “non cheating cheater” can’t drive him to cheat … but she can sure as hell encourage his ass.

By allowing your man to know your not the one, your encouraging him to cheat. By not being the best girl you can be … by being selfish … by withholding previously promised s.e.x … by cheating on him … you are encouraging his ass. Just like if you put a pipe in front of a recovering fiend … you are essentially giving him fuel to cheat.

But … the anti-cheater won’t do it. Cheating is a personal decision … and no matter how close to the edge your pushed, you are the one cheating, you are the one breaking the rules, and you need to own up to that sh*t like a man (or woman).
Feel me?

So I Heard...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... Even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is a two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships... There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.* Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful:

Dr. Phil
You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts....

Seize The Blog...

Hello everyone. Just passed by to say that i'll be out for a while. Certain things to take care of. Will still check on all of you, but no blogging from me for a while. I hope when i come back, there'll be a lot to gist about.

Take care of yourselves...love you all.

Muzic List Tag

Shuu! Even when i try and stay away from blogging, somebody just comes along and disturbs my cooling off! Anyway, my peeps, how you all been doing? I been fine. The landlady has at last installed in the burglar door, and also put in a new door. Geee! But i still freak out everytime when i think about going home. I mean to that house. I lock up the door immediately i get into the house. You guys should see at what speed i jump from the bed when i hear the dog barking outside! This aint coolat all..

Well, Ahmed Babatunde Chibuzor gave me something to do here, and it was really fun reading other people's take on this tag...lol..so here's my turn:

Put your i-tunes/music player/Nokia N95 on shuffle

For each question press the ‘next’ button to get your answer

You must write the name of the song down no matter what!!!

After you’ve answered all the questions tag 5 other people and let them they’ve been tagged and to do the meme themselves:

If someone says ‘is this okay?’ You say:
I want it that way- Backstreet Boys
I always feel on top of the world when things are done my way. Gues i still have to create room to include what another person wants too.

What would best describe your personality?
One Sweet Day- Mariah Carey ft Boys2Men
Yeah..just have patience you guys. One day you'll all know the real person called Jaybabe.

What do you like in a guy/girl?
Shoop shoop- Cher
LMAO...well, maybe a guy who can dance as well as me. I dont mind giving some learns ooh! Coz really i'm a very good dancer. You should see how i 'cut the cake', 'break the rock', and how i do 'dragon'(better than how Lorato was teaching Tatiana in BBA2, I can do much better than that), 'sanola' and all of those other dances you can think of..lol..am serious.

How do you feel today?
The Rhythm Divine- Enrique Iglesias
Yep. I think i can do with a lil bit of music today.

What is your life’s purpose?
People Asking Why- Seal
Thats what i wanna do all my life. Giving answers to all the questions people through at me. Like, 'girl, didnt you know anything about a condom? Should have used one you know?, if you couldn't do without shaggin'. You wouldn't be having 3 kids at this your age!'..i have answers to questions like those..

What do your friends think of you?
Run To You- Bryan Adams
Somebody told me that i am a good listener. I gues that why maybe a lotta people run to me with their problems.

What do you think of your parents?
It's Not Right, But Its Okay- Whitney Houston
There was nothing she could do at that time. But if she was asked what she spent all her time doing during all those years, she's got me to show. I love this woman!

What do you think about very often?
Celine Dion- some Spanish song. I can hear some 'cele cele a tra mo, ko mo atra flow..hai, i donno the name of the song. Some funny words in there. Thats how my life has been so far. A colaboration of confusing events!

What is 2+2?
Break me, shake me- Savage Garden
..just do anything you want, but you won't make me..

What do you think of your best friend?
Thank you India- Avril Lagvine
Thank you very much. I dont have friends. Oh! You mean these ones at Blogville? Aaagg! so much to write about them. Let's put that a post for another day shall we?

What do you think of the person you like?
Lean On Me- Michael Bolton
Thats exactly how it shud be...

What is your life story?
Lay Back In The Arms- Smokie
Yep. Simple and laid back. LOL..this is so much fun..

What do you want to be when you grow up?
Thank You For The Music- ABBA
What du mean? I've grown up already. Which growing up are you refering to? On an added note..People use music to express their inner feelings and thru music, one can know what somebody's going thru and the kinda person they are. Music is what you are as an artist.

What do you think when you see the person you like?
I donno much- Aarone Neville
Exactly. I wouldn't know much about that person.LOL..

What do your parents think of you?
Let's Do It(Let's Fall In Love)- Alanis Morissette
Bwahahahahahahaha....lol..geeee!!!

What will you dance to at your wedding?
When I Remember L.A- Celine Dion
Where on earth is L.A?

What will they play at your funeral?
Endless Love- Lionel Richie
..is what i'm taking with me as i embark on this journey. What would you want me to tell Father when i get there?

What is your hobby/Interest?
T.Pain- something that goes, 'lemme do the things you do blah blah blah..i donno the name of the song. Oh! My hobby/interest? ermmm...


What is your biggest secret?
The Lord's Prayer- Sarafina
This is the truest truth i've ever spoken in years...!!!

What do you think of your best friends?
China- Tori Amos
hahaha...why are you guys looking at me like that? What du want me to say about China?..lol

What should you post this as?
A New Day- Celine Dion
Every dimming of the day ends with some of one's dreams accomplished, but every breaking of a new day holds something special that'll come as a surprise. So hold what you have dearly, coz you donno what tomorow brings.

With all said and done, i'm tagging kay-shawn, archiwiz, shalewa, rayo, E.L.N.G.

If some of those i've tagged have already done this, that means i been away for a long time. My sincere apologies. All of you stay blessed!

After I Saw Them...They Came...

I used to think i knew what a dream could be. I used to think that a dream is what you think about. That when you keep thinking about something, it'll come to you in another form or as a different story in a dream. The dream i told you guys about (refer to the post below)now happened in reality last night. If i go into details some of you maybe will get lost along the way. So i just wanted to tell you guys that, those boys i dreamt about, REALLY came to my house this dawn around 4:30am.

Lucky enuff they didnt steal anything. They didnt even as much as hurt me. I'm still shaking even when writting this because i can't believe that something that i dreamt about happened in real life. Maybe i'll tell you guys about it some other time, but now i'm still...**sigh**. And I think the worst didn't happen bcoz all of you guys prayed for me. You all prayed nothing bad happen. And i thank you all. I think at this point i should say that i owe my life to all of you.

Thank you very much again for all the comments that were published at Afrobabe's blog on my birthday. You guys donno how much that meant to me.

The first person i called this morning was my mum. I could feel her helplessness on the phone. She even suggested i try and forge a transfer to a town nearer home. I've asked the landlady to install a burglar door in my house (something i should've done when i moved in), while in the mean time i'm looking for another house.

Blessed weekend..

I Swear I Saw Them..!

Just last night I could hear the noise in the kitchen in my house, but I was reluctant to go and check who it could be at that time of the night. The TV was on and the music playing on the radio just made me doze off, with my head facing the other side of the bed. Usually I face east, but I guess I was watching a movie when I fell asleep. I was too lazy to face the usual direction. The noise was like two people were discussing something.

And something I couldn’t really make head or tail of. Slowly I crapped up from bed, making sure I don’t alert the two people in the other room, I pulled my red baseball bat next to the chest of drawers. Just as I was about to the enter the kitchen, the two people met me half way, while coming into the bedroom. They also had baseball bats on their hands. They were huge and muscular like that. They put on orange overalls. I recognized the other guy. I knew I knew him, just didn’t remember his name or where I saw him, but I knew him.

Me: Aaaggg! So it was you? You scared the hell outta me.
Guy 1: Yeah
Me: And who’s your friend?. I asked pointing to the other stranger.
Guy 2 (stranger): Is your p**sy cleanly shaven?
Me (to my self): What? How the f*** can this guy speak to me like that? He doesn’t even know me! God! And then it dawned on me. Oh my God! They are going to rape me!.
Use your imagination Jane. Think, think, think harder..
Okay…ermmm…ermm..ermmm..lemme go and pee first. I told them as I swiftly walked roughly past them. When they didn’t stop me, I had an idea. I locked the door behind me so that they won’t get away.

When I got outside, I walked hurriedly towards the house that was opposite mine. I knew my mum was sleeping inside there. I was practically banging on the door instead of knocking. My mum opened for me and I jumped right in. I tried between gasps, to tell my mum that there are men in my house and I didn’t know what they wanted. My mum didn’t believe me so she just brushed me off. When I started to cry that’s when she took me serious. And then we went around waking the other tenants to come and deal with the guys in my house. Coz I told my mum that I have locked them inside. We all went to my house and people gues what we found when I opened the house? Two small boys in their school uniform drinking tea! Small as in maybe grade 4 and 5!

Mum: Jane, is this why you woke us all up in the middle of the night to come and see small kids drinking tea?
Me: But…but...but..mum please I swear I saw two men, not these boys! Two men. And they wanted to rape me! Please mama believe me! I’m telling the truth. I looked at the boys, ‘’you suckers tell mum that you were men before I called them here dammnit! Tell everyone that you are those men I saw...’’

The little boys just looked at me. Saying nothing. Just looking. God! I’m not going to sleep in this house oo! So I followed my mum to hers and she didn’t allow me to sleep with her on the bed. I just wrapped myself with a towel and slept on the floor next to her bed…

Now Blogville, please tell me, ‘’what kinda dream be this one?’’ Seriously. Is there any dream interpreter in Blogville? Biko, come to my rescue now abeg…And you know, the red baseball bat is in reality my red camping chair!
One thing for sure, this dream is not goinno spoil my weekend oo! My birthday was during the week so I wanna do something tomorrow Saturday. My other cousin is coming in from Francis town, so we wanna have fun. Not party but celebrate my growing a step up.

Blessed weekend guys…

The Father I Never Knew

The year is mid 1980. Sometimes in June. Mary made sure that the cold winter breeze didn't come anywhere near her daughter. Wrapped up in a shawl and a heavy blanket on top, Mary held on to her baby tight, as she stood by the railway office awaiting her call to board the train. Mary was accompanied by her own mother, and she was all smiles because she was going to meet the father of her baby in Palapye. She just imagined the look on his face when he sees his own blood for the first time. She couldn't stop talking about him, and telling her mother how she(her mother) is going to get along just fine with her child's father as he was the most sweetest guy on earth.

It took them about 6 hours to reach Palapye. In those days the train was the most oftenly used mode of transport as it was safe and very cheap. And when they reached the railway station in Palapye, so many people got off the train, while a lot more got in. There was so much traffic that Mary almost lost sight of her mother when she went to get their luggage.
When they were all done, they stood there waiting for him. Mary couldn't stop looking this way and that. Anxious to see him walking towards them. God! Why is he taking forever? Mary wondered. Mary's mum could see that her daughter was loosing patience and she kept on re-assuring her. It was times like those that one would realise what a good source of strength a mother can be. Suddenly...there he was! Coming at full speed towards Mary, her mother and the baby.

Mary started beeming with joy at the sight of him. He came towards them, shoving his way through a lot of travellers who were fighting their ways from and into the train. Mary gave her mother the baby so that she could prepare herself to welcome her soon-to-be husband. All of a sudden, she lost sight of him. God! Where did he go now? Where is he? Mary looked at her mum. For what? Answers maybe. But he was gone.

15 years later i came to know the man who, i was told was the same guy who abundend my mum and her mother at the train station! I was told he was my real father. I didn't believe that. Do you guys blame me? I don't think so. I would have believed it if this guy had tried all he could to make up for all the time he lost and all the heartache he brought to my mum. He should have tried to show me a fatherly love i never had. But instead he behaved like some high-school guy, who gets so over excited after a girl agrees to his wooing. This guy was so excited at the thought of having a 15 year old kid. Fuck! For what? Where the fcuk had he been when my mum struggled to see me through to all the 15 years i was then? Why the fcuk did he run away? As if that wasn't enuff, he went ahead and physically and emotionally abuse my mum! God!

Now you guys understand why i never realy took to this guy hey? And the reason why i didn't change my second name to his when he married my mum? Well...the truth is...i really hated this guy! Ooooh! yes i did. And i don't feel sorry about that. And all the time i've been staying with him, i never really felt that he was my father. I felt nothing for him. Absolutely nothing! I didn't even cry at his funeral. When my aunt phoned me to tell me about his death i was like 'really? Oh, okay''. Yah thats what i said. If you thinking that in my heart i said 'thank God!''...well..yah i said that. Coz i knew my mum was goinno be free from all the abuse and all.

So, to all the fathers out there, please make sure your kids get to know you. Even if you are not able to take care of them, or be with them as much as you have to, let them know you care about them. Shit happens and the saying that goes 'any man can have a baby, but it takes a real man to be a father'..is true most of the times.

One more thing..celebrate African Child's Day on June 16 with caution. And wish me luck on June 18 as i take another step up into adulthood.

Happy Father's Day...!

Jaybabe On A Safari Cruise

It's unlike me right? Yah i know. It was my first time to leave Blogville for a few days without letting you guys know. And i'm sorry. Well..i needed ample time to prepare for the cruise i went on with P.S last week. Really i cant say much, but will try and upload some nice pictures for you guys. Hope they'll tell you about it all. And i must also admit i enjoyed every minute of it, though a part of me also missed Blogville. Well..you guys are doing great, all of you, i gues.

The first days P.S came in we stayed at Camp Itumela in a little town 45kms from my home town. I gues those three in a row enjoyed themselves too, and God knows how much i would give anything to see them happy like that everyday. As its the case, these three are trouble multiplied 3 three time maybe. We found the ham missing in our groceries, and the three didnt know where it went to until Vicky made up a story about finding a cat inside the house licking its mouth. I wish this girl to grow fast to blog about where the ham went to and the story about the cat. God!!!!

Chalets at Camp Itumela. Very cool stuff.

3 in a row spent their first night in here at Camp Itumela, but the next day we decided to swap places coz they didnt give us any time to sleep. They wanted to use the toilet every second they had to sleep all through the night. It was cool, but again the tent is so very cold! Maybe thats why the anklenappers couldn't sleep! Maybe.

After dropping the kids off at home, the cruise started with this guy somewhere deep down Chobe game reserve. I wanted to take a picture of me with him, but immediately P.S opened the door, this bloody guys ran off. I learnt from P.S that when animals see a person inside a car, it doesn't matter, but immediately they see your legs they run off! Stupid fools!

I forgot the name of the river, and i'm so ashamed to say that P.S knows all the four corners of this country like the back of his hand. Just imagine! Not knowing anything there is to know! Geeee! He told me the name of this river..dammmnnnit! what was it he said? Anyway...we found that truch stuck in there. I dont wanna explain how i felt when we crossed the river ourselves! Like i could see the waters by my window! God! P.S said the year before, when he came that way, the river was overflowing, and he did managed to cross, but one crocodile hit the front of the car! I would've died there and there i swear! I didn't believe it when we crossed over, leaving the poor truck and its drivers still tryina dig it out.

In our culture we believe that its not right to come face to face or into contact with your totem. My totem is an elephant. But here i am, looking at it. By the way it was my first time to see this animal. P.S told me that in this area there are so many of them. Well, i've heard, but he told me to wait and see!

Here, we were at Savuti camp. Good people, here you better be careful oo! Camp at your own risk! Thats why we decided to make our own double storey shack. PS told me how the lions are gonna be coming in at around evening time, and do you people want to know at what time i went to sleep? It was fun but really i didnt get enuff sleep that night. Everytime I closed my eyes I'll hear the lion roaring some few meters away! Can you guys believe that PS will even laugh at me when i get scared? The next morning i just couldn't wait to get outta that place.

Foolish bucks! Get outta the way dammnit!

Some beautiful chalet we used that over looked the Chobe River. Very beautiful. This was at Toro Safari Lodge.

I wasn't really laying there for a tan, i don't need it do i?

Jaybabe chilling at Chobe Safari Lodge. Very nice place. I think somebody was paparazzing around. I would kill that person!!!..lol..

Chobe Safari Lodge bar. The way beer will pass down your throat at this bar, sounds so much like the water flowing swiftly down the river near by...

Ladies rest rooms. God!!...i could eat inside this place!

10 minutes before the boat cruise...

Chilling on the boat deck. It was better to get a lil nearer...

Our boat was not the only one in the river...

More boats...

Don't mind those elephants, look at P.S's pony-tailed hair on the left there. This hunk's hair had grown so big since the last time i saw it. All shiny with spirals like it was tonged. Damnnn..tried so hard to ask him how he manages to keep it healthy like that. Just ask him to take off the band and watch it over his shoulders! God!!
One other thing you should know about this guy is that he loves elephants so much like his whole life depended on them. Not excusing the other animals, but i think elephants are his favourite.Log on to his Website for more...

...lol..PS thinks i was flirting with those guys on the boat! Ha! Me?..i aint a flirt. I can't do that in front of my man anyway...thats being disrespectful...

The boat cruise took us 3 hours 30 minutes. So thats Chobe Safari Lodge viewed from the river. After the sun went down. Beautiful don't you think?...

I gues you can see Jaybabe getting off the boat right?...

If i had enuff money as i wished i'll use this mode of transport everyday. I couldn't believe it only took me one and a half hours to get back to Gabz from Kasane. Instead of the usual 6/7 hours by bus. As always, it was not easy to see him go. But i know we'll meet again.
Guys, i really think i needed this outting you know? All those weekends i never had due to my commitment to this job, God! Ijust needed some time out. And i must say that i feel that as my birthday is coming on the 18th, i think i've already celebrated it.
I have about more than 400 pictures taken on this holiday, and really i just thought i should share with all of you just those, coz i'm so lazy to upload all of them at photobucket. But thats just about all that happened while i was away. Geeee....this must have been one of my longest posts ever right? I'm tired too. See all of you guys at your pages. I will try and develop www.jaybabe.com I'm tryina figure out what to put in there.
Any personal questions should be sent to seane@jaybabe.com

I love you all...and i missed all of you...

Modimo Wame!...I Got Tagged..!

Okay, i had thought i escaped this, but OLAMILD and ALOOF somehow sensed that i hadn't done this and tagged me. Lemme follow the lead and post the rules:

1.link the person who tagged you…
2. Mention the rules in your blog…
3. Tell about 6 unspectacular quirks of yours...
4. Tag 6 following bloggers by linking them…
5. Leave a comment on each of the tagged blogger’s blogs letting them know they’ve been tagged...

I started by looking up for the meaning of quirk-yes i didn't know what that meant. In fact i googled it up and came to know that it means strange or odd things. Now, i really donno if what i'm gonna put down is really strange or what but:

Quirk 1
I dont like speed. I don't like people who are speed freaks. Thats y i use public transport coz their speed limit is 80km/hr or less. A friend of mine when he comes visiting, he uses these rental cars which are confined to a speed limit of 100km/hr or less. Going beyond that, the car starts making this annoying beeping sound..lol..i love that. If i get lucky one day and get my own car, i'll ask them-the makers, to install that kinda annoying beeping sound. Its better late than never right?

Quirk 2
I had a car accident, in fact a bus accident in 1986. I remember i fell asleep on the way and when i woke up the bus had over turned, there was a lotta screaming, people fighting for the door to get out. I was 6 years old, and that happened about...ermmm..21 years ago, but up till now i cannot sleep while travelling! Thats for sure. Even if can stay out late, or go clubbing till dawn when i have to travel in the morning, people i won't fall asleep in the bus ooo! Would wait till i get home. And ermmm..coz that accident happened while there weren't more developments like now, the road was still gravelled, and up till now i still shudder at the use of gravel roads. I prefer tared roads. I wonder if i'll ever change about this.

Quirk 3
People, i'm very impatient. If i want something now, or if i want it done like now, now has to be time! Same as when my mind's made up. I can't change it.

Quirk 4
I have this odd habit of thinking funny stuff when my mum tells me that she's not feeling well. Hey..God!..It happens all the time. When she does that, i start getting scared. I start thinking about what will i do if she leaves this earth. I start seeing myself having problems with the kids. Okay, they'll move to Gabz, but when i go to work, who'll look after Jeddah coz Vicky and Jnr will both be at school? When they come back from school, will they be able to cook lunch for themselves or will they have to wait for me? Jesus! But they'll be hungry, and can't wait for 5pm. Oh! my God!..then it'll dawn on me that i need my mum more than i can ever imagine. She shouldn't go oo! Not now..and not ever. Then i tell myself, ''Jane, just shut up! Nothing of that sort will happen''

Quirk 5
Well...things have been moving fine for me lately. I'm doing quiet well as a mother and as an individual. But still i haven't dropped this habit of locking myself inside the house for like maybe the whole weekend, that is if i aint working. I gues i'm used to it now. One of the tenants once told me, when she saw me getting outta the house, she was like, ''so you've been around?''. I was like, ''yeah, why?''. And she goes, '' We thought you went home for the weekend?''. ''No, i've been inside the house, probably sleeping..lol..''

Quirk 6
I do like fantacising. Sometimes i see myself with all the bloggers in one big house. I see myself trying to get Pamela to explain what she was doing in the bath-tub. I see Afrobabe telling Dog about her 1st encounter with a man. I see Olamild and Sparkle trying out some new tunes. Really, i can't stop daydreaming. I do that like everyday.

Shuu! I've said enuff. Now i'm tagging the following people. If they've done this already, that'll mean i've been out of Blogville for a long time. And yes i know i haven't been around for quiet some time now.
Toochi, neema devine, disgodkidd, eddiie, incognaija, Pardon Me For Who I Am

Crazy Things Kids Say

Sometimes i wonder what really goes on in kids' minds when they say the things they say and ask the questions they ask. And i must admit i think i'm really gonna have a tough time dealing with these three in a row. Like i said, went home over the long weekend and it was really gr8 spending ample time with them anklesnappers(like somebody calls them)

Was busy cooking in the kitchen and Vicky was helping me out while we talked.
''Jane?''
''Mmh?''
''Who's Jnr's mother?''
''I am''
''And who's Jeddah's?''
''I am''
''Who's daughter am i?''
''I am''
''Mh-mh! Jane? you mean like you have 3 kids?''
''Yeah''
''Yeah baby'' I said, summoning her to pass me a bowl with crushed tomatoes.
''How many kids does mama have?''
''Awwwww! Bona(her pet name) you donno? I am her only child''
''How come you have three kids and mama has only one?''
''Errmmm, Ode(her other pet name) i think during her time there wasn't enuff money to buy kids you know? So i gues maybe i had enuff mani,so i bought the three of you.''
''Why did you decide to buy three of us?''
''Coz i loved three of you, pass me the wooden spoon'', she passed me the wooden spoon.
''Mmh! But you shouldn't have bought Jnr, you know i don't like that guy?''
''Why?''
''He beats me and Jeddah all the time''
''What will you be doing to him such that he ends up beating you two?''
''Nothing.''
''Nothing?''
''Mmh-hmm!''
''I don't believe you.''-at that moment i heard Jedday scream outside. I pipped my head out and shouted, ''Jeddah what is it?''
''Jnr beat me..''he said, between cries...''See, Jane i told you.''

Later that after noon, we were watching Shrek 3 and there's a part where Fiona shouts to Shrek, telling him that she's pregnant. Jeddah turned to look at me.
''Jane?''
''Yeah baby''
''What does Fiona mean by that?''
''She means she's going to have a baby for Shrek''
''Where is the baby now?''
''Ermmmm...she means that Shrek is going to be a father.''
''When?''
''Later''
''Where is she putting the baby?''
''I think the baby is at the swamp.(Coz i had previously watched the movie, so i knew the babies were only goinno be shown while at the swamp)
''Mmh?''
''Yeah''
''Okay.''
Pweeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!! That was close.


When i asked Jnr what he was doing with my phone, he said he was sending P.S an sms. LOL...silly boy.
So, it occured to me that my mum is not the only person who wants me to find and man and get married. It was in the evening when we were out side at the traditional kitchen, you know tryina make fire to heat water for their bath,and Jnr started it. This guy nearly gave me a heart-attack.
''Jane, do you know that they day you get married,we are going to use this kitchen to cook, with large pots like that?''
''Ha! Jnr, what makes you think i'm going to get married?''
''Kgomotso has two kids and she got married (Kgomotso is our neighbour) You have kids too so i think you are going to get married.''
''People who get married are those who have male friends Junior, i don't.''
''But you said P.S is coming. Are you guys not getting married?''
''No''
''Why?''
''Because i don't wanna get married.'' Foolish me. How can i be telling such a small boy this rubbish, as if he understood a thing.
''So why is P.S coming over?''
''Because he wants to see you guys.''
''Thats just it?''
''Junior, go get the bucket in the house we go fetch water from the tap. You talk too much wena waitse?''

Sort of...

Thank you so much guys for all the comments on my last post. I must apologise for not replying to all of them. By now you guys should understand what happens when it becomes month end this side. We get so goddammnn busy. But i'm back now and i must admit, it really feels good to be here again. The other thing, some of the comments published on the last post have finished the story for me so i dont think its wise to start writting to the end. Once again, thank you. Even though a fight broke out at the resturant, all the same the story ended exactly the way you guys thought.

So right i dont have anything gist, but just that i attended one bridal shower over the weekend. Ermmmm..one of my colleague is getting married next month, so they threw a bridal shower for her. Can you just imagine that its winter already here, and the dress code was either mini skirts or hot pants? God! These girls wanted to kills us ooo! Anyway Jaybabe was there and it was fun. Really fun. The girl who's holding that Turperware salad bowl is the one getting married. Showers are the same in any circumstance. You bring a present, they write you name down, and what you've bought. So that next time when you have your own function, they'll buy for you what you deserve. Fun right?

And then, ever since the new president was sworn in, he came up with laws that are really gonna suffocate some of us. Right now the prices for alcohol are gonna skyrocket. And i heard he's gonna tell the brewery companies to reduce the alcohol content, then increase the prices. Jesus Christ! Again he's changed all the times for bars and clubs' operation. Bars close at 10pm. Night clubs close b4 midnight. If there's a festival, everybody should be home b4 2am. Liquor stores dont open on sundays and during the week they open at 6pm and close at 10pm. Ha! My God! The Botswana Music Union is now taking the gorvenment to court, well...so i heard. I think the rate at which this guy is going, he's gonna step down b4 he knows it! The party animal in me is gone now. After the bridal shower thing, the DJ was there to rock the night away. Just as he was about to start, the police came in. By 11pm i was soundly asleep at Doc's House. Well, when we got home, Doc started teaching me her karate tectics. We were bored. There was nothing we could do. Her husband was sleeping so we couldn't even play some music!

See this hair style? Its called cock-screwed carrot. I donno who came up with that name. Well..i thought it looked great on some people so i decided to try it out sef. Not bad is it?

Ehen! Now, i'm gonna take my time making the rounds in Blogville. Mehn! I must be left behind. But seriously, i'm gonna make sure i pass through everybody's page. I think with the list i have now its gonna take me about 2 weeks to complete the round. Guys take care. Thursday and Friday are holidays so i'll be gone home. I miss my 3 in a row. Ermmm..one other thing...Pamela sent me her pictures. I'm all smiles today...**grinning**

When The Heart Says No

...(cell phone rings)

''Hey babe?''

''Hi. You busy?''

''Not that much. Why?''

''I wanted us to meet. I wanna talk to you.''

''About?''

''Meet me at Mophane restuarant in 30 minutes.''

''Ooooh babe can't it wait for later?''

''No Becky, it can't wait. Mophane rest. 30 minutes''

...

Oh God! What is it again? We've been talking about this many a times without number. I don't wanna talk anymore. Jason is just being so unreasonable! Why cant he control his temper? Why cant he be patient like i am? Why does he wanna rush things? I mean, it's been 4 years! 4 solid years, and we are still fighting over one thing. One thing only! God!-

''B, you're okay?''

''Hey Su, i'm fine. Its just that-''

''Its Jason again right?''

**sigh**

''Rebbecah, why don't you just go ahead and do as he says? You don't wanna lose him to another girl do yah?''

''Susan!''

''Ah-ah! Abeg, i know my name. How long has it been? 3, 4 years? And you sitting there tryina play some good girl?.**long hiss** What hasn't he done for you? Huh? What? Your wish has been his command all this time. Anytime. Anything you wanted was just a phone call away. And Becky he's been taking all this bull from you for how long now? Eeh? For how long is this your bloody heart gonna say no? Just for how long? Girlfriend, look, just give Jason what he wants and get it over and done with. Its for your own good ooo! For your own!''

''Suzzy, i know okay? I know. But we've talked about this with Jason over and over again! I can't deal with it anymore, you know? There's even come a point where i can't think of what to say any longer? Why can't Jason try and reason with me just for once Suzzy? Once. Why? Is that too much to ask? Yes he's done all i ever wanted for me, he's given me all the love in the world, and for that i'm thankful. But was it a gatepass to have me jump to any and every call he makes? Su, just look at it from a serious-minded woman's point of view okay? Or maybe take your very own experiences for example. What happened after you went to Pet's house? Why didnt he wanna see you after that? Boiki stopped taking your calls. Sam gave told you about his daughter after you guys slept together. Why the fuck are you not dating right now? Susan i been there done that, please, and i aint going thru that route ever again. If Jason can't wait then let him go catch another fish. There are so many of them swimming around you know?. Coz i'm willing to wait, and thats exactly what i'm gonna do.''

''If you say so girlfriend. But just know that when the world comes crashing down on you, i'll be right here to dry all those tears from your eyes..''

Question It!

It had gotten me thinkin..

What is the one single thing you'll like to change about your partner? Or what is it that you want him/her to change about themselves? Something that you know, that if its changed, your relationship will stand the test of time?

I need your answers guys.

Blessed weekend!

Ciaaaooo!

5 Simple Rules To Be Happy

1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.

No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but he did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.

Disappointments are like road humps, they slow u down a bit but u enjoy the smooth road afterwards. Don't stay on the humps too long. Move on!!!

When u feel down because u didn't get what u want, just sit tight and b happy, because God is thinking of something better.

When something happens to u, good or bad, consider what it means. There's a purpose to life's events, to teach u how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.

You can't make someone love u, all u can do is to be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to the person to realize your worth.

The measure of love is when u love without measure. In life there are very rare chances the you'll meet the person u love and loves u in return. So once u have it don't even let go, the chance might never come your way again.

It's better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one u love because of pride. We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding faults with those who we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give.

When u truly care for someone, u don’t look for faults, u don't look for answers, and you don't look for mistakes. Instead, u fight the mistakes, u accept the faults, and you over look the excuses.

Never abandon an old friend. You'll never find one who can take his place. Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.

This is meant for my friend Lebo. Forget about her going out with my ex, after all we did to her and for her. Forget about her looking up to me as her sister, and looking up to Rogy as her brother, and yet going out all the way to screw him! Forget about all that. The poor girl has lost weight, she can't think straight. She's even finding it hard to live on the same neighbourhood with him. Guys, she's finding it hard to let go of Rogy(who has brought in another live in girlfriend). She's finding it hard to move on. I'm trying on my side to make her see that there's still life after that guy. Look where i am since i parted with him. She cud do the same. I told her all she needs is time. Time heals all wounds. And in folowing those 5 rules above,she'll make it thru.

P.S Can somebody please tell Nkemugo that i wud like to visit his blog. I can't log into his page. Blessed weekend guys. Love y'all.

Forgive And Forget

As children of God, everyday we wrong him in everyway possible, but everyday He does forgive us. Who are we not to forgive people who wrong us? I once suggested this topic on national radio, and it won a lot of votes for it to be discussed. And believe you me it was a heated argument. I was like at which point do somebody REALLY say they’ve forgiven someone else? Totally forgiven them? And what does it take for somebody to say they’ve forgiven another person?

The truth is you can say that you’ve forgiven someone. But sometimes when you sit and look deep into your heart, you’ll still feel that urge to revenge on the person who wronged you. Do you guys still remember Lebo? The girl I once wrote about. That my ex and I used to be their housemate? Okay, here is how it was. I was still co-habiting with the guy I got engaged to in 2004. When he started work, he was allocated a house at one of the flats in Gabz. Because he wasn’t married, he was gonna share that house with one of his co-workers. That co-worker of his was a lady who had a teenage daughter, Lebo. My ex and I took this little girl as our lil sister you know? Sometimes we’ll help her out with her school work. Sometimes I’ll permit my ex to take her out to the afternoon movies if I had something to do, maybe at work or something. Sometimes I’ll go shopping with her. Buy her anything she wanted. We even have a blue boobtube top that look exactly the same, because I bought it for myself, and when she saw it, she said she wanted it too. So I got him to buy it for her. She was really like a sister. Especially that she is the only child and I’m the only child too, so you know, the feeling, like they say, was mutual. She is 7 years my junior.

When we moved to our own flat, Lebo and I didn’t lose any touch. She used to come to our house. Stay there. Help me bathe the kids. Sleep over. Stay with the kids while my ex and I went out. You know?, she helped out in everything. She was there all the time. She was even there when i and him started having problems. I still remember the sms’s we exchanged during that time.

To cut the long story short, when I moved out of my ex’s house Lebo moved right in! Ha! Sometimes you just can’t believe some other things would you? No matter how much you try. Of course I had problems with that. I started asking myself, when did their relationship really start? Were they still going out when we were still sharing the house? Did I give them space to be together, all those times I permitted him to take her out? Sometimes I went home to my mum alone, and he stayed behind. Did I give them enough chance to do whatever they were doing? Did I push him to her? Was Lebo taking advantage of my being nice to her? I mean, my ex and I used to talk to her mum. To let her be, because he mother was always after her! Like she had to come home early. She didn’t have any friends. She wasn’t allowed to leave the house even on weekends, unless my ex or I went out with her. She was supposed to answer her cell phone right here, in the sitting room, no snicking out! And when I came to know that my ex and Lebo were going out, and that HER mother was in support of the relationship, I was like, all that time, was she preparing Lebo for the guy? God!!!

Okay. I came to leave with it. I accepted it. I was like okay fine, I’ve lost him to her. No problem. We talking 2005. And since then I haven’t really gotten to know how they are doing and all. Really I let things go, decided to move on with my life. But just as I thought my life with them was over, it has started again.

I’m pictured here with Lebo. Faith is that one in a red sweater. We were at Doc’ kitchen top-up party the weekend before. Yes she came. I guess with my cousin Faith. We hugged. And later she asked to see me in private…guys…that was really like a nightmare…!

And then on Monday when we were at the office and people were by my computer, looking at the party pictures, they wanted to know what Lebo was doing at the party because she had wronged me? My people, I don’t take it that Lebo wronged me, like I told her when she wanted to apologize that night, ‘’You didn’t wrong me in anyway. I just take it that Rogy wanted to get back at me, and you only happened to get caught in the act. It wasn’t your fault. Really. To me, you are still my kid sister.’’ Yeah you guessed right. She cried. Especially now that her and the guy are not together anymore.

When she asked to see me in private that party night, she told me everything that happened between her and him. Everything. I donno why, people say that I’m a good listener. Lebo told me that some of the things she told me that night, she never told anyone. Not even her very own mother. She wanted to know how I got over the guy. She wanted to know how she could get over him. She wanted me to help her out. Help her heal. I didn’t tell her much. Just a few words. ‘’You might think that you’ve wronged me, but like I said, I don’t take it that way. I have forgiven you and forgotten everything that happened. So do likewise: Forgive and Forget.’’

So guys, I wont update until the 1st of April. I’m expecting something to happen from the 20th till the 28th March. Up till then, take good care of yourselves, and have a blessed Easter Holy’s. When we come back, and if you all are luck, I’ll tell you all about it. If you ain’t lucky, then just forgive and forget!

Ciaaooo!