Another Woman's Man = A Dangerous Zone

Can somebody please tell this woman that, that's just a mushroom!

When it comes to issues of cheating, the first thing that comes to ones mind is how their partner performs in bed with the person they are cheating them with. 'Is she/he better than me?'. Why can't we think of something else apart from SEX? Can't somebody cheat by just meerly hanging out with the other person, without them sleeping together? Easier said than done huh?!

Now women have come up with dangerous means of protecting what is theirs. I donno if men do it too. Well..i've heard of only a one in million case where a man goes out to an extent of 'going a step further'.

Three Nigerian men came to Botswana sometime last year on a business trip. I've read the story on newspapers now, coz it was all over the country. So these guys booked in one hotel next to the University, Gaborone Sun most probably. They got involved with some girls from the university and a few days after the guys left..heee! Those girls started having worms coming outta their private parts! God! Those girls suffered oooo! Kai! Well..i haven't been to school to see them, but rumours had it that, you wouldn't stay one single minute in their room! The smell that came outta there was umbearable. We got most of the stories and the pictures of the girls in The Voice Newspaper. It reported that the girls made endless visits to hospitals to no avail. It published the pictures of the girls with their legs apart like that. Bcoz they said if they placed their legs together, it hurt real bad. My God! Just imagine, some funny small worms coming outta there! Well...i donno where the girls are right now, but i heard the last time they were seen in this country was when they were boarding a plane to Nigeria. Only the wives to those men, were the only people who could cure them! See? Another woman's man is a dangerous dial to touch!

It doesn't only happen in Nigeria. In fact i think it happens everywhere in Africa. I donno about the western world, but in every country in Africa, its common.

When my mum was still working and i was still at high school, she used to have a friend. They were not very close, but they came together when they wanted to have a woman to woman talk, you know? So it happened that this woman, my mum's friend, was dating a married guy. She was a conductor in the said guy's bus, while he was the driver. I gues thats how they met. And then, they started shagging. Ha! The wife found out ooo! And then when she wanted some answers, she didnt get any. And then she kept quiet.It so happened that my mum's friend started having her periods 24/7/365. There was not a day that passed by without her having her flows. She confided in my mum, thats how i got to know,coz my mum and i are friends. I asked my mum what she said to her. She was like, ''i had long told that woman to leave another man's husband alone, but she wouldn't listen. Now, let her get herself outta that mess''. See? It happens everywhere.

There are so many cases concerning consequences of dating another woman's husband. Just that people dont come forward about them. A similar case i once heard was where a woman who was 'knocking' another one, got into her periods everytime she's supposed to go meet with the guy. Everytime. Ha! How these things happen i donno ooo! So abeg, girls, watch out. If he belongs to another one, don't even think twice!
Coz you'll be pressing a wrong button!

Well..it's as a result of all the shagging and the over protection of the 'mushroom' that we end up celebrating baby showers every weekend. Like i said, as long as they wont stop making babies, i wont stop having a good time while waiting for another new mouth! This one happened over the weekend and like always, it was a blast!

I haven't done a tour of Blogville in a long time. So guys, have a productive week!

Tiane's Night Out

When Tia first told me about the baby she was carrying, and i calculated, i didn't think the days and months would pass by so quickly such that in no time we would be celebrating her baby shower. I remember it was some time in June last year, and by then she told me she was two months on, that meant the baby is due this month. So my people, dont blame me ooo! I think i got carried away with that Popstar thing i even forgot my friend is goinno have a baby! What kinda friend is this one? Mxem!

Anyway, thats why i rushed things last week so that we hold the babyshower this past weekend. Tia went to her doctor and they did a scan. She was told its goinno be a boy! And that the EDD(estimated Date of Delivery) is in two weeks.
And everything with the shower went well ooo! My friend can't even wait to go to the 'bakery'...lol..if only she knew? Knew what? Nonsense! Is it not for just 10 minutes? And she'll be holding her baby in her arms?

As usual, Jaybabe took her cam with her. Here are some pictures.


When she's not heavy like this, she's such a beautiful girl. Wait till the baby comes out. You'll see what i mean when i talk about beauty.

Snacks being passed around.

Thats the M.C now! And she even allowed us to use her house as the venue. Everything's fine. The past is in the past. Even though what she did to me is unforgetable, she's still my friend. That will never change.

Anybody ever tasted Nestum? Yeah food for 3 year olds down? Tastes nice, like ermmmm..i donno..but very nice. Everybody made sure they made a mistake so that they could have a spoon full of nestum. Some came very late. Others didn't include gate passes(any product from Johnsons) with their presents. See? So if you did something wrong you got punished by eating nestum. Or like if Tia didnt gues right what the present could be,and who it came from, she'll also get a spoon full of that. It was fun. Really.

Oooh! My...! Did i mention my girl has her own set of wheels? Okay, you all know now. So included in the presents was a baby car-seat. From the organisers of the shower. You know who's included in here right?

You guys all know that my girl is a first time mother right? So here, they were showing her how to bath the baby. Every single step of bathing a new born baby. And this foolish girl was laughing! Can you imagine? If she thinks i'm goinno do everything for her, she should forget it ooo! Ha! Where was she when i did all mine? Abeg...lol..of course i'll help her out.

I never really intended to show Tia's face here you know?But...well..okay..thats my girl there now!

Ehen! Shall we eat now? On the menu there was papa, chakalaka and some grilled braai woers and beef. T'was very nice. I mean the food.

See this girl here? She doesn't drink anything with alcohol ooo! She didn't even get tempted when seeing all the drinks. Yebo!!! Another one of my resolutions will be fulfilled. Abeg..i didn't make a vow with any of you guys..but i did that with God. I vowed that i wont drink again. AND I WON'T!!! Don't mind what's in that bag. Just my lip-gloss, two spare batteries for the camera, in case the other two went down, money for cab afterwards, what else?...ermmmm..yah, and Nivea lotion for my hands. Thats all there was in that bag actually.

More pictures HERE. Enjoy the whole week ahead.

The Night Before

It wasn't like any other moment
Yes the clocked ticked
And a little girl laughed outside
But it wasn't the same
Same as every other day i lived
Because the night before
I thought i saw you
Walk in through that open door

The t.v was on, but i saw only you
The radio was on, but i heard only you
When the rainy air blew into the house
It was the scent of you i inhaled
This is true, this is not a foe
Because the night before
I thought i saw you
Walk in through that open door

The time
Wasn't like any other
Even during that night
And I saw the moonlight
It glowed on me with a smile
Said to me, 'very soon
You are goinno stop walking that mile'
It was the night before
That i thought i saw you
Walk in right through that open door...

Pamela Thinks I'm Weird...

...i gues thats why she tagged me on that one. But really i don't think i am. Thats why again, i took this long to write up something on this topic. I got tagged last year November and i took this long bcoz i was tryina search for anything with me that cud be(.....)you know? But not weird. This is what i came up with.

I don't always wear what i prepared to wear the previous night. Like i'll iron some clothes to wear in the morning. But i'll always end up wearing something else. Its not being weird is it?

I start work at 7:30am on weekdays, that is monday to friday. But everyday i wake up at either 4:30am or sometimes 5am. I donno...after bathing, i'll sit on the couch, with no clothes on, and then my mind will wonder off. I start thinking about my dreams, my goals, my future. I start fantacising about life. Abeg, this happens all the time. I start seeing my self living in some foreign country, just me and the kids(and of course..him). By the time i jump back to reality, it's 7 o'clock!! Heee! people you shud see how i start moving up and down the house, not knowing what to do, where to start! Do i need a housemate?

Somebody nearly broke my ribs on this one. Was it Pamela or Afrobabe or Anonymous girl, who said the first thing they watch out for on a man is the front of his pants! Check if its bulging. If there's a bulge there, she'll know that, 'yaahh, i've hit the jackpot!''..lol..well the first thing i look at on a man, the first time we meet, is his hands, especially the nails! Am i weird? Abeg, those hands do a lot of things ooo! not to talk about the fingers and its nails!

The twitching by my hip when i walk. I donno why that happens. It becomes (weird) if i'll happen to be walking with someone and they ask me, ''hey, whats that sound?'' You know like the twitching sound comes with every step i take.

I can't seem to change my mind about something easily. Once my mind is made up, there's no turning back. Like i always remember the other time, the kids were still young, like 6,4 and 3 years. And that time they were staying with my mum back home. I had made up my mind that i was gonna get them bicycles that month. That whole month, i remember their...well...'father' and i had to go without food bcoz i used all the money to buy those bicycles. No matter how much he tried to make me see reason. Thats the way i am. Still, not weird right?

I sleep with a bible under my pillow. It has to be there EVERYTIME!. Well before that, i used to get nightmares, but ever since i started sleeping with it under there, i don't get those. Even if i did, in that dreadful sleep, i call God's name, or remember that the bible is under my pillow, the nightmares go away. Very weird. I wanda how that happens.

Washing an underwear, takes most of my time sometimes. Especially in the mornings. So when i sleep at night, after bathing, i dont put one on, coz i know in the morning i'll have to wash it again. So the best thing is to sleep with no undy so that in the morning i don't have to worry about that. When i tell people, like i talk about it in the office, they tell me that its not safe, that what if somebody breaks into my house and attempts to rape me, i mean he won't even have to struggle with any undy. But i lock my house now!, and the windows have got burglar bars, so i think i'm safe.
Well...whats the use in sleeping with my undy on, coz if it happened that i slept with my boyfriend or husband, he's gonna take it off! This is life made easy for him ooo!

I don't think i'm weird...do you?

Would You Run Or Finish?

Hey guys, the year has already started now, i gues it's time we gisted. Sometimes i wonder if really standing for whats right for you might be wrong to another person. Would you choose to accept what you don't want, just to satisfy another person? Is it a crime to act for what you rightfully deserve than not, just because you might hurt another person in the process? This happened sometime last year, i gues it was 3 days b4 xmas day. You know how i love Wimpy's Double burger now? So i was craving for one on that particular day then decided to go for it. I'm placing my order at the reception table.

''Can i have Wimpy Double burger please- Take away.''
''Anything else?''
''Yah, and 1 mega coffee, put 7 satchets of sugar please''
''Okay, you can wait by that chair while we prepare your order, its gonna take 8 minutes. Thank you''
''Thank you''

I'm sitting by the chair, waiting. Recharging my phones.

''Excuse me'' its the lady who was taking my orders.
I turn to look at her, ''me?''
''Yes ma'am. Your bill is ready''
I go to the reception table, ''how much is it?''
''P41.50''
I pay. Go back to still wait for the order. While still waiting, i took the till slip she gave me and went thru it. I see that she's punched in Cheese burger. Oh God! How i hate cheese! I stood up quickly and went to tell her that.

''Sorry, i didn't order any burger with cheese'' showing her the till slip.
''But i asked two times whether you wanted cheese burger and you didnt object''
I'm begining to sweat now. When i get angry, i start sweating, ''Heela mma! I didnt order any cheese burger, did you hear any word like cheese coming from my mouth? For God's sake i dont eat cheese!'' I banged my hand on the counter.
''But i repeated the order twice and you didnt say anything''
''So what do i do? Cos i dont take cheese? And i've seen that you've sold to me the one for P30. I want that one for P27. Thats the one i always buy.''
''But there's nothing i can do''
''There's nothing you can do you said?''
''Yes ma'am''
''Oh? Okay. Where's your manager?''
''He's at the back''
''Call him for me''
The manager comes in. I relate the story to him. Can you believe that i was even shaking?
The manager started punching in on the till and then gave me my P3 change. ''I'm sorry about that ma'am''
''You are welcome'' I was smiling. You know the kinda smile now.

Am back sitting at that chair again, sipping in their sweet coffee. Dammmn people in the restuarant were all looking at me. But while swallowing in the coffee, it dawned on me that i didnt do the right thing you know? Shouting at that gal like that. Well it was my money i was fighting for and practicing my rights as a customer, but it was like i looked down on that gal, it was like i was indirectly telling her that she doesnt know her job! I felt really bad. God help me!

But again, was i supposed to just go with the cheese burger when i don't even take cheese? Was i supposed to go with the P30 burger when i wanted the one for P27? I narrated this to a very close friend of mine, and he suggested that i go back and maybe..you know..kind of like..appologise to the girl! Eerrmm..i'm still thinking about that. Okay. Maybe the next time i go to the same restuarant i'll talk to her. I'm not sure about the apologising part...

It feels good to be back home...in Blogville.

Expand Your Happiness...(Happy New Year)

Compliments Blogville!!! I hope everybody came back wholely after the crazyness of lighting fireworks. Well..i came back still as the bubbly Jaybabe you all know. Another year has started and that calls for more gists and keeping Blogvillagers up dated on the goings on around everyone. I hope to be bloging as much as i would love but then i have my own resolutions now, abeg, i am supposed to have those right? Well they are not many:
-No alcohol
-Minimum going out
-Getting much closer to God
-Expand my happiness as far as i can
-And by the grace of God, i wanna realise one of my dreams this year. Pray for me guys...Yeah thats all. And for that i would love to share this with all of you:

Expand your happiness by learning from past years mistakes. New Year should be treated like another chance in life to leave all past mistakes behind and start all over again, a time to review the past year and to obtain the essence of the past many months of work. The essence means to learn what was good and what should be changed and HOW things need to be changed if changes are needed.

From year to year all should progress - progress means:
- improve
- more happiness
- more peace in family and neighborhood
- better health
- more fun and joy in life
- more financial stability by reducing expenses to a healthy relationship with the actual income
- Having learned to stay well within your own limits - i.e. stay OUT of OTHER peoples private business unless asked to do so for helping. Focus on YOUR problems an solve them better each year.
- Having improved your professional skills and expertise / knowledge to have a solid basis for life and for your happy future
- Having reduced the number and quality of struggles with others by leaving them more and more in peace and focus on your own many problems to solve.

FIRST there are lessons that repeat year after year. Click HERE for more.

Like the previous New Years messages: Click HERE for more.

New progress is ONLY possible on the basis of accomplished earlier basic lessons. Before even thinking of or attempting new progress - first assure you have done all the basic lessons of life to create peace of mind and emotional stability in life. We must review the past, to obtain all essence and to preview possibilities of the future year. We must work hard to achieve our goal, to improve and re-harvest again until all are happy around us. The happiness we have created as a result of a fruitful and successful year we gave:
- love
- professional help and advice
- shelter and support
- happiness in many ways to all around us

Hence the many happy people we have created in this ending year will be the source of our next years happiness...and so on.
Happiness always bounces back ...but only the happiness WE have created in others bounces back. What we do for money to earn our living and pay for our shelter,that is for our very personal use only and has little to do with love. All we do beyond business and without money,just for fun and for free,to neighbors or friends, foreigners of any nation...that is what really counts toward true happiness in the coming year. In eternal life only the love you gave matters for your heart. How much did we all contribute to a better and more peaceful life in more freedom by more people on this planet?
How many past conflicts did YOU solve in your life these past months?

It still is time with more open hearts than most other seasons of the year. Hence it still is time to reconcile, to embrace and hug, to love,to forgive and enjoy new achieved loving happiness in an expanding global family: Click HERE to read more.

A few sweets or a few flowers do miracles and may help to open a heart otherwise closed for reconciliation - some extra efforts and a true gift of love to make someone smile again...

Happy New Year to you all.