After A Storm....The Birds Sing

The last posts have been all about what i tape as traumas that i went through.I wanna thank all those who left their comments,and all the encouragements i got really meant more than a lot to me.Reading all other people's blogs and finally mastering up the courage to write up my own,made me see that i aint walking upon this earth alone.I'm really grateful.And i gues it's time for a little smile now,after all that...

Sometimes in February i started communicating with one other guy,P.S(for Perfect Stranger) who was in the U.K then.We met at eDumela,and then exchanged email adds,and then we started talking.About nothing really.Just about him.And about me.He visited my blog,and then he said there was so much he read,and that we don't need to continue talking a bout me coz he thought he knew it all.

And then when we started talking about the kids-MY KIDS o!, he went like, ''oh! i also have got my three in a row''.And he sent me this picture.


I was told that's Fergus on the left,and he's a soldier.The next one is Lucy.She's the girl,and the oldest.She's the one in charge of everything.The other one is the talkative,always barking Hamish.I hope they are doing fine o!,coz the last time i heard of them,they were being taken to a salon for shaving!..dogs?..to a salon?..good lord!

Okay.And then we started talking again.About my country now.He told me he knows a little about my country.And he sent me his website.I went in there and found out that he has toured the western half of my coutry.I don't even know that part of this country.

And then he said he'll be coming to Namibia-a neighbouring country that's to the west-in May.In fact end of May.He'll be taking some of his friends there.Okay fine.

And then he asked me if he could see me!.He told me that there's one other place he wanted to visit in Bots and asked if he could also see me during that time.


Khama Rhino Sactuary(http://www.botswanawildlife.com/botswana/krs/index.html) is a tourist attraction destination that's situated 25km north of my home village.This is where wild animals are kept for those tourism reasons.Can you imagine?..somebody who's a million miles away knew a lot about this place and nna i was only staying 25km away from the said place,but i didn't know it? I only got to see its entrance when i pass on my way to Orapa.

When i told him that,he was like, ''Okay,i'll take you there,together with the kids.Please?''.
I really took all these for a joke o! I mean, i didn't really think that somebody who doesn't even know you,will go all the way to do all that,considering that Khama Rhino is a very expensive place to go to.I wasn't really sure that this guy was serious.
And then i asked him if he will bring along his family.He didn't answer that one.And later told me that he dropped the whole thing when he heard me mentioning his family,so he thought that i wasn't interested.
So..i donno what happened after that,but whatever happened led to me being sent confirmation and reservation letters! Oh my God!..so this guy was really serious? He even emailed me and told me he's in Namibia a week ago!

Anyway...guys i won't be in the whole of next week.I really need some time out ehh? Away from the hassle and bassle of sitting at this machine,going through people's blogs one by one.But i hope when i come back on the 4th of June i won't find a lot of updates coz it's not gonna be easy for me to catch up with all the many blogs i love,so abeg, one or two posts will do.
I hope to bring something myself when i get back,something to write about and maybe some little pictures.

Take care of all yourselves...ciaaooo!

Food For Thought

I was forwarded this message and it was entitled Resolutions Of A Woman,and i think it can make a good read to some people as it did to me.Even though it can't be the same to all of us,but i think as women and growing up in a society that has got men making decisions at every corner,these are some of the things that are vital and that someone can tag along in this journey we call LIFE....so..make up your mind!

1.Love, Love, Love Yourself.
There's only one of you, so love YOU to death!

2.Stop Playing the Victim.
Martyrdom is totally unnecessary for today's woman. Your first allegiance is to yourself.Without a strong sense of self, there is no way that you can tackle the ups and downs of a relationship or the rigors of motherhood (if you so choose).

3.Stop Settling for Less.
A piece of a man is definitely not better than a whole, healthy man. Your desperation is showing.

4.Stop Trying to Be a Saviour.
If a man doesn't have his head together and is on the skids, it is not up to you to try to save him. You are neither his mother nor his therapist. Let him go and move on. Men like this will bring you down if you aren't careful.

5.Learn to Exhale Between Relationships.
In other words...no transitional lovers. Someone always ends up being hurt and it could be
you...again, or that poor man. Neither one of you deserves to be hurt or used. Give yourself some down time.

6.Learn the Difference Between Being Alone and Lonely.
Being alone is by choice and loneliness is only temporary. Get out and enjoy yourself. Wallowing in loneliness can often make women desperate for attention and lead them into unhealthy relationships.

7.Don't Allow Any Man to Validate You.
Allowing any man to define who you are as a woman leaves you open to being controlled and eventually abused. Why give a man that type of power over you? Now, do you really want
to be the kind of woman who thinks that her life is not complete unless she has a man in it...any man? Where's your self-respect?

8.Blessed is the Child that has Her Own.
Handle your business educationally and financially. Generally, needy, uneducated women tend to attract men of the lowest character.

9.Small sacrifices now lead to bigger rewards later.
Don't let Good Sex Sway You. Sure, he may rock your boat like no other man has ever done,
but don't let the sex cloud your judgement. If he treats you like crap, or like convenient booty call or just add you to his harem then, eventually, you may come to resent him with the same passion you displayed when he was between your legs. Now, if that's all you want, and that's all you think you're worth and are willing to settle for, then be honest and protect yourself. If you play, you will definitely pay. Don't confuse lust with love. And it's not fair trying to trap him with a pregnancy neither one of you wants. That's dirty pool. And why should an innocent child pay for your stupidity? After all, you picked him.

10.Don't Try to Buy a Man's Affections.
In the long run, not only will you lose him, but you will lose your self-respect and any smidgen of respect he may have had for you. Are you that desperate? Any self-respecting man will never allow himself to be kept. Kept meaning, letting him move into your place, paying his car note, allowing him to use your credit, etc.

11.Stop Trying to Change Men.
Men will usually tell you who they are if you really listen to them. So try less talking and do more listening and you will, most likely, save yourself some trouble.

12.Stay Away from Unavailable Men.
If he's married, separated, having problems with his baby's/babies' mama/mamas, not ready for a commitment, not willing to commit, etc., he is off limits. Now if you thrive on drama, then, by all means, go right ahead. Some women are made like that.

13.Love Doesn't Hurt.
Women who say that they love physical or verbal abuse from their mates have some serious emotional issues and will continue to make up excuses until they get the help they need. Don't become a statistic. The life you save may be your own.

14.Don't Compromise Your Moral Values.
Even if you don't consider yourself a particularly religious person, promiscuity will take a toll on your self-respect and even your health, in the long run. Sleeping around with men who don't have your best interests at heart tends to chip away at the very essence of you. Listen to your instincts. They will never lead you wrong.

15.Respect is Reciprocal.
If you want respect then you must give respect, especially toward your mate. If you lash out in anger, frustration, or whatever, be prepared to receive the same in return. Even the most loving and gentle man can take only so much of his woman's funky attitude.

16.Keep Your Personal Business Between You and Your Man.
Use extreme discretion whenever you are tempted to discuss your personal problems with family, friends and etc. Many relationships have been broken up due to outsiders putting their two cents in where it didn't belong. Keep that mouth zipped!

17.Don't Advertise Your Man.
Whether he is "da bomb" or a blessing sent down from heaven, try to keep it to yourself. Actions speak louder than words. Most women can pick up on this just by being around you and yours. Why? Because you are as happy and content as a kitten with a
saucer of warm milk. It will definitely show. Now there's nothing wrong with a little bit of bragging about your man. But keep it low-key. No sense in irritating those unscrupulous women who will try to "test your man" and/or lure him away (as if they could)!